Robitussin & teens...

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Subdued

The only reason I'm sharing this is to inform other parents. I was very hesitant to post, though, because it's embarrassing as a parent to reveal something like this - it feels as though it's a reflection on me.

Subdued,
Thanks for being brave and sharing.

I remember, very well, when my daughter was pulling her stunts and I was afraid for her life. You should listen to Nancy Grandquist tell about her daughter - it ended in victory.

I remember someone in leadership telling me - "Well, ya'll could move away and start over......"

I said, "I don't believe we will be going anywhere. The church, the community, my family and friends can see her failure, but they can and will also see the victory."

And YES they sure did see the Victory!!!

Weeping may endure for a night BUT joy cometh in the morning/a new day!

It is a promise and He abides by His WORD!

We pray and believe in the meantime! What I did was petition the Lord for something to stand on through the dark time. I needed something to hold on to.

He said to me, "She will go through the darkest time of her life, but she will come through and she will stand stronger."

This came to pass!!!!

Love you! You've been through enough to know that He is gonna take care of you!! I continue to pray!

[AmazingGrace]

Subby,,,

I know exactly where you are coming from. Not the OD'ing part but almost losing the child. Very few know this but maybe 5 or 6 on this forum but it was not more than 5 months ago that my own son tried to commit suicide. You are NOT a failure. I felt the same thing for many months. My son made some wrong decisions. His were fueled by his school situation and the only thing we could do was to remove him from the situation. We were blessed to have a pastor and assistant pastor and youth pastors who acted I think almost faster than I did (at least they were also able to think a lot clearer than I was) and the youth pastor was actually at the school before I. The situation was met with much prayer and guidance and we made it thru..

Girl I know you will be ok... I know your son will be ok and I trust God is going to place the right people in his life to help you all get thru this and get back on track to where you need to be.

My son was so messed up then. This happened the Friday before thanksgiving. Let me tell ya that same messed up kid just came back from working at camp in Louisiana as one of the camp counselors/ministers and teaching/preaching to the kids there and has such an awesome walk with God it makes Mom feel like I am missing out! There is indeed hope!

If you ever need to talk you know where I am

[Subdued]

Originally Posted by cneasttx

I can remember feeling silly searching deodarant bottles and piggy banks, anywhere a kid could hide drugs. And then I heard about kids taking alcohol to school in their thermos. Half empty soft drink bottles that were used to hide the vodka or gin. They learn to hide it well.

And you didn't fail because he is alive.

Yes, praise God he is alive! For that, I am SO thankful!!!!!!!!!!!

[Subdued]

Originally Posted by MrsMcD

Subdued,

Don't be embarrassed! You are helping others by posting and you are getting help. imo

My son is only eleven but my dad sent me something recently about kids getting high on that dust buster stuff. They are inhaling it. I can see any kid or teenager doing something that stupid because no matter how much we tell them the danger, we aren't smart in their eyes.

This is so true! And my son admitted, yesterday, to thinking that I didn't know what I was talking about. He went from a kid who used to tell me how crazy & stupid people were for using drugs, and telling me that he would never do such a thing, to someone who did it himself and had plans to continue - AND - planned to use stronger drugs! I don't GET that! I mean, why do we talk to our kids if they're not even going to listen?

[Subdued]

Originally Posted by dizzyde

NO, you didn't fail, teenagers are brilliant when it comes to doing what they want to do. You would be failing if you were not responding to it once you did find out!!

Listen, I got off relatively easy with my daughter, and she had her moments. But I was a single mother with 1 child, not every parent has the luxury of being able to focus all of their attention on their child, and even in that situation, she pulled several stunts that could have been really bad if I hadn't reacted strongly.

She is almost 21, and she told me the other day that she is so thankful that I never trivialized things when she messed up, and that I always made her be accountable for her own actions. She is already able to see the benefit of that at her age.

You are paying attention, and you are being reactive and you are praying. There is no failure in any of that my sister!!

Thank you for the encouragement. Really.

[Subdued]

Originally Posted by Kae

My husband was in the military when my children were young. I remember we used to joke about the drug of the week that the physician would prescribe. Everyone was walking out with the same medicine that week. His favorite was Robitussin. Some on the parents of young children would give it to their children on a routine basis so they would be calm and stay out of the parents hair so to speak, or so they would sleep. I didn't realize that it was a problem with teens.

I think part of the problem with teens today is that they don't have the respect that past generations have. Respect meaning a healthy fear of adults. They think they will be fine nothing would hurt them. They have so many avenues telling them that parents don't know anything. My cousin had a good modeling career and was doing well (well in the eyes of the world he had everything going for him), yet he took every drug he could get his hands on. He thought he was invincible and nothing would hurt him. One morning his friends found him in his tent and he wouldn't wake up. They left him and got breakfast. When they came back they realized something was wrong he had oded on a combination of a drug and alcohol. He was only 19 years old. It was a new drug and very dangerous. I don't remember the name it was about 5 years ago now.

Wow! I'm very sorry to hear about your cousin. How sad.

[Subdued]

Originally Posted by Sherri

Subdued, I had to keep going back to the fact that we had dedicated our children to God when they were infants and that He loves them even more than I do. I kept speaking life and righteousness over them and tried to NOT speak anything negative that the devil could use as an accusation against them. My children are a heritage of the Lord! I kept professing that even if I didn't see it at the time.

Thank you for this post.

[Subdued]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Subdued,
Thanks for being brave and sharing.

I remember, very well, when my daughter was pulling her stunts and I was afraid for her life. You should listen to Nancy Grandquist tell about her daughter - it ended in victory.

I remember someone in leadership telling me - "Well, ya'll could move away and start over......"

I said, "I don't believe we will be going anywhere. The church, the community, my family and friends can see her failure, but they can and will also see the victory."

And YES they sure did see the Victory!!!

Weeping may endure for a night BUT joy cometh in the morning/a new day!

It is a promise and He abides by His WORD!

Good words, PO. Thank you.

Originally Posted by PO

We pray and believe in the meantime! What I did was petition the Lord for something to stand on through the dark time. I needed something to hold on to.

He said to me, "She will go through the darkest time of her life, but she will come through and she will stand stronger."

This came to pass!!!!

Love you! You've been through enough to know that He is gonna take care of you!! I continue to pray!

Love you, too; and yes, I believe the Lord will take care of me - and my son. Thank you for praying!

[Subdued]

Originally Posted by AmazingGrace

Subby,,,

I know exactly where you are coming from. Not the OD'ing part but almost losing the child. Very few know this but maybe 5 or 6 on this forum but it was not more than 5 months ago that my own son tried to commit suicide. You are NOT a failure. I felt the same thing for many months. My son made some wrong decisions. His were fueled by his school situation and the only thing we could do was to remove him from the situation. We were blessed to have a pastor and assistant pastor and youth pastors who acted I think almost faster than I did (at least they were also able to think a lot clearer than I was) and the youth pastor was actually at the school before I. The situation was met with much prayer and guidance and we made it thru..

Girl I know you will be ok... I know your son will be ok and I trust God is going to place the right people in his life to help you all get thru this and get back on track to where you need to be.

My son was so messed up then. This happened the Friday before thanksgiving. Let me tell ya that same messed up kid just came back from working at camp in Louisiana as one of the camp counselors/ministers and teaching/preaching to the kids there and has such an awesome walk with God it makes Mom feel like I am missing out! There is indeed hope!

If you ever need to talk you know where I am

Wow! Words escape me. I'm very sorry for what you've suffered through with your son's suicide attempt. I can't even imagine!

I am happy to hear the good report, though! This is encouraging. It's so helpful to hear these stories and know that there's hope. Even though I keep experiencing these FEELINGS of hopelessness & discouragment, I KNOW in my heart that the LORD reigns and that He WILL see us through. My son belongs to THE Creator of all - so I will trust in the One who has all power.

[AmazingGrace]

Originally Posted by Subdued

Wow! Words escape me. I'm very sorry for what you've suffered through with your son's suicide attempt. I can't even imagine!

I am happy to hear the good report, though! This is encouraging. It's so helpful to hear these stories and know that there's hope. Even though I keep experiencing these FEELINGS of hopelessness & discouragment, I KNOW in my heart that the LORD reigns and that He WILL see us through. My son belongs to THE Creator of all - so I will trust in the One who has all power.

I thought of you this morning as my son came into my room at 8 bright and early.. kissed me on the head and woke me up... his words were mom... You may be getting tired of me going to all this church stuff but... I need you to take me to the church this morning... I have to go to prayer meeting! Girl...I cried! He had no clue why... but I cried because your current situation made me realize that God can change anyone and He will touch your sons life and yours and bring you both out of this stronger than you ever were before just hold on!