Children of Lost Parents and Standards?

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by Sherri

These kinds of stories make me think that there's going to be a lot of blood on somebody's hands someday.

*tearfully*
I am sorry that this is the case.

[MrsMcD]

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

This is a true story and this sadly happened, there was a child in a beginners SS class whose parents were not saved.The child came to the SS class wearing earrings and the SS.teacher told her she couldn't come to the church wearing those ,well the child quit coming to SS.

This is heart breaking.

[MrsMcD]

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

Let's just say that person had issues.

Does the pastor know that this person did this to the child?

[originalsecretplace]

Originally Posted by Fonix

I am not sure any of us would know exactly what we were going to do until we were faced with those same circumstances.

I think alot of it would depend on the childs age. The other children who are complying might have a hard time understanding.

We once had a lady who attended our church. Knew the standards that the church held yet would allow her daughter to come to picnic functions in shorts or pants.

To me that is disrespectful because she herself knows what is taught and what the people believe. Kids have a hard time understanding it because they considered themselves as a member and yet they werent following what they heard taught

Big difference when you dont know what is taught and you do it or you know what is taughtand you just dont care and are gonna do what you want anyway

This strikes a nerve with me.

We had a Bible school in the church basement. I wanted to go and had talked to my daughter and asked her to go with me. My daughter was in her late teens and decided she didn't want to wear skirts all the time. My take on it was that it wasn't and heaven or hell issue and that my relationship with my daughter was more important so I did not make a big deal of it. I carefully pick my battles and weigh issues.

I was really happy that my daughter was going to go to Bible school with me for many reasons not the least of which was that she was going to have the Word of God taught to her more in depth. There's nothing more powerful than the Spirit and the Word working together to make deep spiritual changes in a person's life. We went to Bible School and the pastor said that all women had to abide by the dress standard of no pants. My daughter wouldn't go back because of it. I was crushed.

I thought instilling the Word in a person's life was more important because that is a heaven or hell issue and a way to come to maturity in Christ. Dress standards are just not a way to mature someone in the Lord.

[Revelationist]

How do people get saved if they are limited in their worship?

Originally Posted by originalsecretplace

This strikes a nerve with me.

We had a Bible school in the church basement. I wanted to go and had talked to my daughter and asked her to go with me. My daughter was in her late teens and decided she didn't want to wear skirts all the time. My take on it was that it wasn't and heaven or hell issue and that my relationship with my daughter was more important so I did not make a big deal of it. I carefully pick my battles and weigh issues.

I was really happy that my daughter was going to go to Bible school with me for many reasons not the least of which was that she was going to have the Word of God taught to her more in depth. There's nothing more powerful than the Spirit and the Word working together to make deep spiritual changes in a person's life. We went to Bible School and the pastor said that all women had to abide by the dress standard of no pants. My daughter wouldn't go back because of it. I was crushed.

I thought instilling the Word in a person's life was more important because that is a heaven or hell issue and a way to come to maturity in Christ. Dress standards are just not a way to mature someone in the Lord.

Im sorry it struck a nerve. I should have mentioned that the lady herself was a saint at our church. Im not talking about unchurched unlearned people
or people who have lost family or anything of the sort. That would be foolish to insinuate those folks had to abide by some dress code. I was certainly not belittleing instilling Gods word in people

[Trouvere]

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

Suppose you are a Pastor and you have set standards for your church.
Now you have children coming to your church whose parents are lost.
Suppose these children want to sing in the youth choir or participate in Sunday School outings and events.
Do you demand that children from these enviroments comply with the church standards before they can participate in church activities?

Our current pastor asks that they dress modestly when special things are going on but no he does not put restrictions on bus kids.

[Scott Hutchinson]

Originally Posted by Trouvere

Our current pastor asks that they dress modestly when special things are going on but no he does not put restrictions on bus kids.

Bus kids come from lost homes and lost parents who buy their clothes so that makes sense.

[HeavenlyOne]

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

Bus kids come from lost homes and lost parents who buy their clothes so that makes sense.

And a lot of church raised kids have only one parent in the church and one that isn't. This makes for a very difficult situation as well.

[Scott Hutchinson]

Originally Posted by MrsMcD

Does the pastor know that this person did this to the child?

I think that Pastor find out after it happened.