In our church we were never taught that we couldn't trim our hair. It was not a subject that was preached on ever, really. We were taght in Bible studies that a woman should have long hair. People had differeing opinions on the subject of trimming. I always did trim my hair. We have many black women in our church (one being my DIL) who perm, trim and put alot of prducts in their haier to keep it managable.
I have a friend who listened to some tapes by a well known preacher who preached on women's standards. She decided when listening to these tapes that she would no longer trim her hair. After she made that decision she started to feel a feeling of bondage. It got worse and she studied scripture and then she decided to trim her hair again. She said the bondage was removed immediately. She felt God was telling her that this teaching was one of bondage and biblically incorrect.
I have to tell you- I detest that term. Whenever I hear folk tout 'bondage' due to dress preferences set by their pastor- I cringe. I do not feel that I in bondage- not in the least, by ANY of the standards that I keep.
It's difficult to dicipher my feelings right now. When you have been taught something is wrong and salvational allllll of your life, and then, over time you see some of the same men that were against it, discount it because someone gets 'headaches' and such...it makes me leery if it ever was salvic to begin with. I have honored the wishes of my parents and my pastors, in regards to the uncut hair doctrine. Where I am struggling is, the reality of the ones I love being lost because they have chosen to cut theirs. It breaks my heart to think of anyone being lost for eternity, and I just want ASSURANCE from God that all is well. I'm not getting it in prayer, and I am sad beyond words.
Has anyone else been in this situation before that can maybe PM me with some encouragement in this situation??? I am sincerely NOT pointing fingers at anyone. Like I said- I have friends who have cut hair, and I don't think twice about it- but, this is my child- and I am confused, and sad. ANd I have to wonder WHY the difference? Why am I not sad for my friends?
If Admin feels the need to move this elsewhere, then so be it...
I have heard all of my life, that when a lady backslides and cuts her hair, then she is 'acting out in rebellion'. Has anyone else ever heard this stated?
Where does this line of thinking come from, and is there BIBLE scripture for it?
I believe the uncut hair doctrine, and have never cut my hair...however, I have good friends that are BUSY in the Kingdom (in Apostolic UPCI churches) that keep their hair trimmed. I cannot say that they are going to Hell for it- but, it's a risk that I am not willing to take...
I have mixed feelings about the hair...there is a certain fear in my heart, when I am tempted to trim some off, in an effort to make it look healthier. Does this fear stem from my HG, or from outer influences? When my daughter cut hers- I felt SOOOOOO sad inside, like a part of me died. I'm serious!!! Why is THAT???? I still feel sad when I see it.
I know I am not alone in my feelings. To those of you that TRIM your hair- did you feel a sense of loss the first time, and then it got easier each time you trimmed it? Or does it bother you each trim???
I don't want this to become a debate- I would like some serious, honest discussion about this subject...
In my opinion, men cannot relate to this particular question that I ask- they have never fought this battle...
Any input??????
We had a thread started with almost the same question you ask here.
I asked at that time ....... "Why do women cut their hair? Is it because they are consciously and deliberately wanting to be rebellious - to be disobedient - to disrespect and dishonour God and their husbands?"
I personally think not - not in most cases anyhow.
The conscience IS definitely formed to a large extent around how and what a person has been taught so unless you're absolutely sure of what Scripture is teaching and have a strong conviction that haircutting is not a sin nor is it displeasing to the Lord then you are very apt to feel the sting of conscience.
There IS a difference between conscience and conviction.
Just a few quick thots ...... BUT..... I am not going to tell ANY woman they should or ought cut their hair. I will tell them if I feel it's wisdom my understanding and knowledge of Scripture and what I feel Paul was teaching in its proper context and in the custom and culture of that day.
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We had a thread started with almost the same question you ask here.
I asked at that time ....... "Why do women cut their hair? Is it because they are consciously and deliberately wanting to be rebellious - to be disobedient - to disrespect and dishonour God and their husbands?"
I personally think not - not in most cases anyhow.
The conscience IS definitely formed to a large extent around how and what a person has been taught so unless you're absolutely sure of what Scripture is teaching and have a strong conviction that haircutting is not a sin nor is it displeasing to the Lord then you are very apt to feel the sting of conscience.
There IS a difference between conscience and conviction.
Just a few quick thots ...... BUT..... I am not going to tell ANY woman they should or ought cut their hair. I will tell them if I feel it's wisdom my understanding and knowledge of Scripture and what I feel Paul was teaching in its proper context and in the custom and culture of that day.
My apologies, I should have done some research before starting the thread. I was fresh out of my prayer time, and still feeling the heaviness of a burden, and posted without deep thought.
Thank you so much for your response- as usual, you make sense.
I don't remember the first time I trimmed my hair. I never felt a sense of loss and it never bothered me. My only concern was what other church members thought .
Maybe that was the convicting power of the HOLY GHOST making you feel that way.
I don't remember the first time I trimmed my hair. I never felt a sense of loss and it never bothered me. My only concern was what other church members thought .
Maybe that was the convicting power of the HOLY GHOST making you feel that way.
No, because then I would have felt that whether I was attending a UPC church or not. I do know what Holy Ghost conviction is and respond to it. Trust me, I'm much more concerned with God's opinion than man's.
My apologies, I should have done some research before starting the thread. I was fresh out of my prayer time, and still feeling the heaviness of a burden, and posted without deep thought.
Thank you so much for your response- as usual, you make sense.
Sorry Annie. I posted in a hurry and slightly distracted from work. The thread I referred to in my post was started on NFCF. Not on this forum.
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The question remains- Is coloring your hair a different color different than cutting it?
Is this a lie, for you are now presenting something not true?
Same thing if you use a tinted cover up of some type to hide a pimple. Silly example you might say BUT ....... I can think of other examples also that are all about aesthetics.
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The question remains- Is coloring your hair a different color different than cutting it?
Is this a lie, for you are now presenting something not true?
Sure, just the same as men or women who wear slimming outfits to make it appear they are thinner than they really are, wear perfume or cologne or wear deodorant as to cover up how they really smell, and people who wear contacts instead of glasses so people won't know they are sight challenged in some degree!
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Well, I guess this is a 'taboo' subject...not one response from a woman who trims her hair.
I was SO strong about this years ago- and now it's becoming fuzzy and cloudy. I was hoping for some knowledgable input from folks who have 'been there' and 'done that'...42 views and 7 responses- are we afraid of the ambush, ladies??
Thanks anyways!!
I used to feel the same as you do now. I was astounded that there were people out in the world that couldn't see the obvious as I did. I mean, the Bible plainly says that women cannot cut their hair, so how can anyone miss it?
Well, that's where I was wrong. See, I'd been taught it all my life and without reading it for myself, I took my pastor at his word (as he taught us to do). I preached it to others as well. When I got the internet in 1998, I had another venue to preach from.
For at least two years, I argued and discussed as nauseum on newsgroups about this issue. It was so plain, but some wouldn't see it. Instead, they asked me for scripture. Scripture? Why didn't they just believe me like I'd believed my pastor? Why did they need scripture?
That may sound funny to you, but I seriously didn't understand. So I took their challenge just to prove I was right. Then they would see.
Well, it didn't work that way. I am still unable to find those scriptures that my pastor told me where there. I had to come to a conclusion. What I'd been taught wasn't true, and if it wasn't true, then it was a lie.
Since coming to the GNC in 2002, and then to FCF, I learned a lot more that I'd been taught also wasn't in the Bible. I continue learning, but it's not all negative. In fact, I've learned more on the positive side of my salvation than not.
I'm grateful for those who have helped me, even if they aren't aware.
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