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Re: Seven Days of Sex... Woo Hoo!! :)
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Originally Posted by ILG
I am confused about your answer to my post. I didn't say anything about the above (until a post I just wrote a few moments ago). I did talk about pornography and sexual addiction. I think it is an important topic and definately related. I'm afraid some men in the church use their wives for a sexual "fix" and use the Bible to do it (saying the marriage bed is undefiled and relations should not be withheld). That isn't to say that I think "whatever" is a sin....but no one should ever be pressured.
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ILG,
I'm sorry, I must have misunderstood what you were saying. When you said, ....why people are willing to discuss it....and whether intimacy is at the core of the discussion or if sexual addiction is at the core.", I thought you were implying that is why some may be discussing it here.
I felt the topic was something many haven't come to terms with as they are not finding a decent audience to express their thoughts for feedback. I feel this is as good a place as any, being that Sister Falla, the wiser, is also engaging in the conversation with tact, as are others.
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11-12-2008, 11:45 PM
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Re: Seven Days of Sex... Woo Hoo!! :)
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ILG,
I'm sorry, I must have misunderstood what you were saying. When you said, ....why people are willing to discuss it....and whether intimacy is at the core of the discussion or if sexual addiction is at the core.", I thought you were implying that is why some may be discussing it here.
I felt the topic was something many haven't come to terms with as they are not finding a decent audience to express their thoughts for feedback. I feel this is as good a place as any, being that Sister Falla, the wiser, is also engaging in the conversation with tact, as are others.
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Oh, I do think that is why some are discussing it. But I certainly wasn't implying that that is why everyone is here.  I just think it is more prevalent than people are sometimes willing to admit.
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11-12-2008, 11:47 PM
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Re: Seven Days of Sex... Woo Hoo!! :)
I should really be in bed though. Sleeping, I mean.
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11-12-2008, 11:49 PM
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Re: Seven Days of Sex... Woo Hoo!! :)
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I think pornography has had a huge impact on everything. It is such a secret sin now and at the click of a button. It truly terrifies me how available it is. I think it is a secret epidemic. Sometimes I wonder if pornography may have something to do with the subject at hand in every way. Meaning, why people are doing the things they do....why people are willing to discuss it....and whether intimacy is at the core of the discussion or if sexual addiction is at the core. I don't have th answers to all these questions but it is some food for thought.
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Well, here's a new question to throw out there...  ...is it wrong to be addicted to having sex with your spouse? 
Is sexual addiction just a white-washed title for immoral and promiscuous behavior? Should it even be used in reference to the married relationship?
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To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
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11-12-2008, 11:51 PM
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Re: Seven Days of Sex... Woo Hoo!! :)
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Oh, I do think that is why some are discussing it. But I certainly wasn't implying that that is why everyone is here. I just think it is more prevalent than people are sometimes willing to admit. |
ILG,
Oh, I see. I did read you right then. Well, I'll have to admit that I am a total airhead, at times, and it never occurred to me. LOL! Thanks for pointing that out. That let the air out of the tires. Everyone is now suspect!  LOL!
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11-12-2008, 11:51 PM
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Re: Seven Days of Sex... Woo Hoo!! :)
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I think people can be addicted to sex with their spouse. What an addiction does is makes a person keep from meeting responsibility. So, is sex used as a drug and does it cause arguments? Or is it used as an intimacy builder? Those are the real questions no matter the frequency.
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11-12-2008, 11:53 PM
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Re: Seven Days of Sex... Woo Hoo!! :)
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ILG,
Oh, I see. I did read you right then. Well, I'll have to admit that I am a total airhead, at times, and it never occurred to me. LOL! Thanks for pointing that out. That let the air out of the tires. Everyone is now suspect! LOL! |
Certainly. 
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11-12-2008, 11:54 PM
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Re: Seven Days of Sex... Woo Hoo!! :)
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Can a person really be "immoral and promiscuous" with their lawfully wedded spouse?
Sex can be addictive-- but I can only imagine that it would only be "destructive" once the wife or husband becomes demanding or unfaithful....
But I'm not married yet so....
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11-12-2008, 11:55 PM
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Re: Seven Days of Sex... Woo Hoo!! :)
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I think people can be addicted to sex with their spouse. What an addiction does is makes a person keep from meeting responsibility. So, is sex used as a drug and does it cause arguments? Or is it used as an intimacy builder? Those are the real questions no matter the frequency.
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Hmmm.
So what would qualify it as an addiction, other than...causing arguments?
I'm going to skip right over using it as a drug, because I don't really understand it, and can't really express my initial thoughts about it on here. 
Sex should be fun--not just deliberate (planned) for a "good reason." As long as both husband and wife are happy and fulfilled, I say it is an intimacy builder.
I also think that men do have higher sex drives than women naturally, so it wouldn't be fair to say that they are addicted to sex just because they want it more often. Nor is it fair to say a woman is frigid if she doesn't (want it as often).
The balance is found in couples pleasing one another, and doing what makes BOTH happy--and if that's every night, then I don't call that "addiction."
So...back to my question...what would you call "sexual addiction?"
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"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
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11-12-2008, 11:56 PM
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Re: Seven Days of Sex... Woo Hoo!! :)
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Originally Posted by ILG
I think people can be addicted to sex with their spouse. What an addiction does is makes a person keep from meeting responsibility. So, is sex used as a drug and does it cause arguments? Or is it used as an intimacy builder? Those are the real questions no matter the frequency.
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