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Originally Posted by George
Thank you for this post! Really, this thread needs to stop. It is a very intimate subject that is really nobody's business except the married man and his wife. They alone decide what happens in their bed. If the wife agrees to AS and the husband OS or vice versa, that is their perogative. It is none of my business if they do or don't. God doesn't care either. As long as that married couple is in agreement it is none of our business.
It sounds to me as if someone is trying to prove a point to shove in their spouse's face to get what they want and this is not the way to do it. If your spouse says, "No," respect their wishes. Intimate actions must be in agreement.
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I agree.
If I were to counsel couples before they were to marry.
I would ask them to talk intimately about.
More than..... at what table each friend and family member would sit at.
I would share that they need to talk about money, workload and intimate relations.
I do not know about anyone else on this thread.
I am 44 and have been married in Dec 22 years.
So this coming March marks me being married half of my still young life.
I remember sitting and talking with my girlfriend and asking many things about her dreams and hopes.
I also asked her for the OK to talk about intimate things.
We went into engagement and marriage with intimate understandings.
These understandings were not contractual or devisive.
They were understandings of protection and behavior to have us bond together in both spirit and body.
So there were no hidden agenda's or hidden fetish.
If we were going to change as many ended marriages end because someone has changed.
We were going to change with each other.
While growing up in the church atmosphere that I did as a child.
I saw many a men teating their closest human contact in their adult life as if they were a machine and not a mutual intimate bond.
What I see as confusion in many marriages and intimacy even in the church today.
Is summed up in selfishness, control, fear, stress, and anxiety.
This leads to stress in a relationship.
How many ladies on this thread.
Start to feel stress as the days of the week start to tick towards Saturday morning.
When a relationship is pure and intimacy is true.
These moments are not dreaded or avoided.
They are shared, intimate and loving.
I did not need to read any self help books to understand intimacy.
I started out with a conversation with my girlfriend.
From there we made our mistakes in life and we made them together.
In the past 22 years we have laughed, cried, worried, prayed, loved and (wow) stayed together.
What I see today in society are acts being acted out.
Without the bonds of love and intimacy.
Anyone want to better thier intimate life start with a conversation.
Use that same example into your relationship with Chrsit and have more conversations with him.
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