See, this was what I was concerned about. I don't want to feel like a horrible parent If we don't pick him up every time.
Just remember this, even though he is a baby, he is learning, and picking him up each time he cries is teaching him more and more how to get attention, and while that may be ok now it will get harder to break him from it later.
It bothered me not picking my son up but I knew it was best for him to be able to get himself to sleep and not having us always rocking / picking him up and walking with him to get to sleep
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Let's put this into perspective, as this is how I see it.
When we are upset, we cry out to God. We expect that He will pick us up.
Does this mean that we will start crying all the time just because God picks us up everytime we cry? No. We mature, just as babies do. In another year, he will know what the word NO means and things will be different.
Right now, he's just 6 months old. Hardly at an age of understanding much of anything but his wants and desires.
Each parent has to decide where the line is, some take it another step from yours, which means the baby gets to sleep with Mom and Dad. So after raising four I vote for a little crying to learn and grow. (Of course, taking care that it is not some other issue, as has been mentioned)
Relax, Easty a little crying will not harm the babe.
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Not if he's cuddled and loved all day long - - however HO is on a different road here.
It's okay, I'm just trying to get a different perspective. We seem to always pick Benjamin up everytime he cries. I'm just hoping that this isn't unhealthy for him.
Now see, I look at it this way - the baby IS just six months old. He wants ALL the attention and doesn't know what's good for him. You've seen a baby fight sleep - - well, a baby needs sleep, he doesn't need to fight it.
If he's loved and cared for and nothing is physically wrong with him, then he's just crying to get attention instead of going to sleep.
It's okay, I'm just trying to get a different perspective. We seem to always pick Benjamin up everytime he cries. I'm just hoping that this isn't unhealthy for him.
It's unhealthy for you - - - let him cry a bit.
I'm guessing there's a split decision between you and the Mrs. - - lol!
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Now see, I look at it this way - the baby IS just six months old. He wants ALL the attention and doesn't know what's good for him. You've seen a baby fight sleep - - well, a baby needs sleep, he doesn't need to fight it.
If he's loved and cared for and nothing is physically wrong with him, then he's just crying to get attention instead of going to sleep.
My mom told me that I was creating a monster, allowing my kids to be held all the time and even sleep with me in my bed. But neither of them had problems.
For instance, my firstborn didn't have a crib when he was born. I had a cradle for him, but he'd cry when I put him in it. I had a playpen but he didn't like that either, even to play in. He'd cry and cry and was clearly unhappy.
For the first 6 months, he slept with me. He liked the swing and the walker, but the playpen was out. He NEVER went in one of those...LOL!
I got him a crib when he was 6 months old. He slept just fine in it the first night and every night thereafter. I had no problem letting my mom know how wrong she was....LOL!
She tried getting me to put him on a feeding schedule. I let him eat whenever he was hungry. That drove her crazy but I wasn't going to listen to him cry in hunger because he wanted to eat too early.
He didn't like hats.....never wore them until he was a teenager. This also drove my mom crazy, and she'd say that he would catch cold and such. Well-meaning older women would say this too, but he's my healthiest child.
I'm not suggesting anyone raise their kids like I did mine. What works for one won't necessarily work for another, but I'm just posting things that worked for me. If they don't work for him, that's fine. He'll find something that will.
A friend of mine had a baby three months after my son was born. Her daughter would scream all the time, even when held. She did this for like the first year of her life. Never did find out what was wrong, even though she went to the doctor all the time and such. She was just one of those screaming babies!!! I'd have found her another mom! LOL!
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So, you just give him everything they want at that age? Does God do that for us?
God does not allow us to cry alone when we are crying for Him. No, He doesn't give us what we want, but He doesn't put us in our bed and leave the room for us to cry ourselves to sleep without Him.
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See, this was what I was concerned about. I don't want to feel like a horrible parent If we don't pick him up every time.
You'll feel like a horrible parent, get used to it. If you were the best parent in the world, you'll still feel awful whenever the child suffers or stumbles. I came to conclude that that feeling was a sign of good parenting.
My oldest boy went into these massive screaming fits about a half dozen times before about 2 years of age. I would go over him with a magnifying glass trying to find a bug bite, a pin prick anything to explain his crazed screaming. We could never figure it out. Picking him up helped some, but not always. I worried that he had appendicitis or something bizarre and painful internally- nothing. The Doctor just smiled at us like we were first time parents (which we were) and that was that. Finally he stopped.
No answers no explanations. When I ask him about it now (he's a high school senior) he just shrugs. He tries to play it off like it's all part of a master plan he's been hatching since birth. When he was a toddler the little tyke used to take food from the kitchen and hide it in his room; sort of like he suspected that one day we would stop feeding him. My wife would find crackers and cookies neatly stacked up out of sight in hidden places.
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