****(((Sister Beezer's Story)))****

[Scott Hutchinson]

Sister Beezer are you a friend of Amazing Grace ? AS I hope you are ,she would make anybody a great friend in times of trouble.
If I had been hurt I would want AG as my friend.

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

Thad, can you limit the fonts to size 3. Not all of us were up all night on decongestants!

[Thad]

Originally Posted by SisBeezer

i guess had it stopped there i may have come out of it eventually, sadly to say though, after escaping that church, the church family (and i use that term loosly) i ran to, ended up being worse than the last one. i just thank God i didnt take my children with me to that one.

Tell us about it !!!

[Neck]

Originally Posted by Thad

*** YOU MUST READ THIS !! ***

If you haven't done so, please take the time to read this :
In All the 5+ years I have been on the forum, never have a read a worse case of church abuse! this moved me like no other post i've ever read.

wow i have been reading this thread for almost an hour now, it is incredible. and i was beginning to think i was one of the only ones who had been through such a mess. i was in two different churches like this. believe me, they are very real and very abusive.

the first church i was in, here are some of the rules:
1) no one under any circumstance could wear the color red, or own anything that was red, no red cars, nothing
2) i was not married by the time i moved to this church, so i was required to give the pastor, keys to my house, my car, he had his name put on my bank account. single women could not even run to the grocery store alone.
3) besides the normal you cant cut your hair rule, they had it, if you were 14 or under you were required to wear your hair down. no pony tails, no bows, no clips, nothing. after 14 you were required to wear your hair up at all times until you married. then you could wear your hair down, only in the presence of your spouse. only thing allowed in your hair was bobby pins. not even hair spray was allowed.
4) you could not purchase anything or take a job without the pastors approval and when you first move there or join that church, if he didnt like your job, or home or car, you were forced to change it, imediately.
5) under no circumstances was a single person allowed to have any visitor in their home unless it was same sexed relatives. i was under constant watch because i was a single mother with two sons. he at one point tried to force me to move my sons out of my home, because he said it did not look right for boys to live with a single lady (omg i was their mother!)
6) no sports were allowed at all for anyone at any time. you couldnt even go in your own yard and play catch with your own children and heaven forbid if you shot a basket!
7) they allowed no dating at all. if a guy liked a girl, he met with the pastor for a year, then the pastor went to the girls parents if he approved, and told them that he had her husband. then the marriage was planned between the pastor and parents. after marriage, he said when they could have children and when they couldnt.

i could go on but i am sure this one post wouldnt hold it all. sigh the next church was just as bad, almost the same rules stated applied, plus a few new ones

1) no electronic devices were allowed, no tv, no cell phone, no computer, no radio, no MICROWAVES even, we were required to use wind up alarm clocks even!!
2) if you wanted to go out to eat after a service, you were only allowed to go with your immediate family, and had to order it to take home.
3) under no circumstance were you ever allowed to visit another church, OF ANY KIND! i made the mistake of visiting a revival that a friend from work was going to at her church, and they were apostolic! i wont say what i went through over that one.
4) we were not allowed to go to any kind of doctor, dentist or anyone in the medical profession, no medication is allowed at any time, not so much as an asprin.

anyways the list is endless. what made me finally leave and never go back was, one night around 3am, the pastor came into my home, i was in bed asleep as was my youngest son, he was 15 at the time. the pastor drug my son out of his bed, with the help of four other elders, they took him out into the street into the church building that was across the street and beat him from head to toe. when i asked as to why this was happening, i was told that God told him that my son was watching porn on a tv hidden in his closet! there was no tv anywhere in my home at the time, for we were not allowed any electronics.

this is very real, and there are so many that are being spiritually abused at the hands of so called pastors. if you have not experience this you need to thank God that he protected you, but for many this is very real and very damaging. dont look down on those who leave the churches all together because of this. these kinds of abuses are the worst. its one thing to be abused by friends or family, but when you are abused by your pastor and church it does something that is not easily healed. its easy to sit and pass judgement on us, but until you have walked in our shoes you have no idea just how deep this pain goes.

Who was her first pastor Rev Jim Jones and the name of her church the peoples temple?

Give me a break...

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by Thad

is that the best you can offer ??

Originally Posted by BoredOutOfMyMind

Thad, can you limit the fonts to size 3. Not all of us were up all night on decongestants!

lol

[Scott Hutchinson]

Sister Beezer I'll offer this to you ,if you want a woman to talk to ,pm me you can have my wife's phone number and talk to her if you need someone to talk to, she's a caring person.

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

SisBeezer,

Not all churches are Asylum's to be shunned. Some are in fact havens for healing. Emotional and Spiritual healing is what we hope you can find.

[Thad]

Originally Posted by BoredOutOfMyMind

Thad, can you limit the fonts to size 3. Not all of us were up all night on decongestants!

THAT SURE WAS COLD!!!!

[BoredOutOfMyMind]

Originally Posted by Thad

THAT SURE WAS COLD!!!!

I hate the time change deal.