Sleeping with Uncle Jeff - Page 25

RandyWayne · #**241** 10-19-2007, 08:23 PM

I do not know how many have ever caught an episode of "Intervention" but for all the people they highlight, past abuse is present in over half the cases. And not just an overbearing father, but actual rape and/or incest.

Rhoni · #**242** 10-19-2007, 08:24 PM

On the lighter side...it reminds me of a song..."That's the night that the lights went out in Georgia..." know what I mean?

Scott Hutchinson · #**243** 10-19-2007, 08:26 PM

If a perv, touches one of my girls his lights would be out.

Rhoni · #**244** 10-19-2007, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by RandyWayne

I do not know how many have ever caught an episode of "Intervention" but for all the people they highlight, past abuse is present in over half the cases. And not just an overbearing father, but actual rape and/or incest.

transgenerational sins that our father's didn't know they gave us...the stats are right...closer to 90% were abused. Way over half...

RandyWayne · #**245** 10-19-2007, 08:27 PM

I was just going by what was actually mentioned during the episodes, but I have heard it it "nearly all".

pelathais · #**246** 10-19-2007, 08:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

transgenerational sins that our father's didn't know they gave us...the stats are right...closer to 90% were abused. Way over half...

It's not just a "bad dad" at fault. Lots of blame for everybody.

Rhoni · #**247** 10-19-2007, 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by RandyWayne

I was just going by what was actually mentioned during the episodes, but I have heard it it "nearly all".

Yes, that is nearer the truth. I was chaplain in a jail and I held an abuse therapuetic group. The majority of the women had been molested or raped, had been strippers, and claimed to be bi-sexual. They liked men but men hurt them. They needed the nurturance from the women that they didn't get at home. They were confused. Many cut or had problems with eating disorders. Many were in there/jail for drugs/self-medicating or violence against a person who crossed them and they were so full of anger.

Rhoni · #**248** 10-19-2007, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by pelathais

It's not just a "bad dad" at fault. Lots of blame for everybody.

Mothers molest also, siblings, uncles, close friends...The statistics have the men who abuse/molest/rape at a much higher % than women...97% or so men and 1-3% women. Women that molest is rare. For this reason I would never leave children with a male babysitter. But I would never leave children with a person without a thorough background check. Day cares are a must for some people but I don't trust that either. I pray that more men will work and allow their wives to stay home and nurture their children.

MrsMcD · #**249** 10-19-2007, 08:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

There is a statute of limitations about this and maybe your sister can find out what it is...but I think it might be better for your parents to apologize to her and let her know they didn't know what to do and just wanted to protect her reputation.

My brother does not wish any ill toward his perpetators. I think, he thinks, he has forgiven them. He may well have but the effects last a lifetime. There are support groups which have perpetrators and victims in the same group [not the perpetrators of those victims]. It sometimes helps heal when a victim confronts someone else who is a perpetrator even if not theirs and ask why. Then tell them what they think of them and how their actions have hurt them.

The one thing that keeps me/my heart focused is that I know most of the perpetrators have once been the victim. You would think that they would not want anyone to feel like they felt when they were being victimized but many times this is the only way they have been modeled about what "love" is, especially if the molestation came from a family member who told them they were 'special' and they "loved them the most."

If counselors can catch the victims and reparent/retrain them as to what good and healthy love is then we can stop the victims from becoming the perpetrators. There is a point where perpetrators become reprobate and cannot determine between right and wrong and they are very dangerous people.

Mrs....all I can say is that I am where you are and I wish I could make things right for my brother, like you wish you could make things right for your sister...but we can't. We have to trust that God can take what the devil meant to destroy them and make them an instrument of peace for another who may have been in the same situation.

Many ask..."Where was God while this was going on?" He was crying and holding the person so they would not die. He does not take away the will of another to not do these things but be not deceived...there is a day of accountability and God will repay.

Sincerely, Rhoni

My parents have apologized and apologized to the point that they had to stop blaming themselves. My sister did go to a counselor and the counselor checked into finding this man.

I have never blamed God. He had nothing to do with it. I don't think my sister did or does either. One day this man will pay if he hasn't changed his ways. I hope for his sake he has.

MrsMcD · #**250** 10-19-2007, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

On the lighter side...it reminds me of a song..."That's the night that the lights went out in Georgia..." know what I mean?

LOL