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02-12-2009, 09:14 PM
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Rebel with a cause.
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Re: Living Arrangements
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Originally Posted by Rhoni
I just love how all of you think you know me...and you have no idea 
But Blessings, anyway...
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It's not hard for us to know you Rhoni, your words tell us everything about you.
YOU are the one that doesn't know yourself, unfortunately.
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02-12-2009, 09:14 PM
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Re: Living Arrangements
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Originally Posted by Ferd
this thread actually makes me pretty happy with AFF today.
with rare exception, we are by and large, lib, mod, and con in agreement that this is a very bad idea.
rarely does AFF come up with something like that. Thank God most folk here have some sense!
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And you thought some of us were heathens!
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02-12-2009, 09:18 PM
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I need a Triple Espresso, NOW!
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Re: Living Arrangements
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Originally Posted by rgcraig
And you thought some of us were heathens!
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 heathens...... here.......... on AFF???? 
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02-12-2009, 10:29 PM
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Forever Loved Admin
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Re: Living Arrangements
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heathens...... here.......... on AFF???? |
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02-12-2009, 10:50 PM
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"One Mind...OneAccord"
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Re: Living Arrangements
I've tried to avoid this thread for a number of reasons. One reason is that the answer to the initial thread is a no-brainer. Christian men and women should not co-habitate unless they are married. Period. The reasons are obvious.
But, now that I am in this thread, allow me to address a couple of things that have been said.
1) Men blame their wives (or women in general) for their shortcomings. This, in and of itself, is sometimes true. And, just as true is the fact that women blame men (or other people) for their shortcomings. Adam blamed Eve, Eve blamed the serpent. I think failing to take responsibility for our shortcomings, mistakes and failures is a part of our fallen human nature. We hear it all the time. What happens to us is not our faullt. Or, so we think. This is our way of excusing ourselves for our own mess-ups. We try to justify ourselves by blaming others.
2) Women are punching bags. There are women (and men) who endure abusive relationships. But, heres the real deal: Gen 2:21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; Gen 2:22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. Note that the woman was taken from the mans side. That is the womans position in the relationship with the man. By his side. Not behind him. Not in front of him. But by his side. Further, she came from his side...close to his heart. A healthy relationship is one where the man holds his wife close to his heart, and she remains at his side. She came from him, and, as Adam said "...and they shall be one flesh.", meaning that within the relationship, they are co-equal. Women weren't taken from the mans arm to be slapped, nor were they taken from his foot to be trampled on.... but from his side, where she should remain, close to his heart.
Notice what Adam said of Eve.... Gen 3:12 And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest [to be] with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat. True, in his fallen nature, Adam was blaming Eve but, in doing so, he had to acknowledge that the woman was given to him by the Lord. Husbands, apart from salvation, our wives are one of God's greatest gift to us. They are our "help meets". I looked that word up in Strongs and found that it means "a helper".
God has blessed me with two wonderful wives (both deceased) and I gotta tell you, they were treasured gifts. Shortcomings? I don't blame them for mine, but they helped me to discover them and helped me to correct some of them (still got a long way to go). If there is anything good in me, it is due in large part to the two women God allowed me to have for a short time. If men blame women for their shoprtcomings, women are often equally guilty in the "blame game" by blaming men of their past for their present unhappiness. And, they thwart any chance at a happy future by holding onto the past.
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02-12-2009, 10:54 PM
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I need a Triple Espresso, NOW!
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Re: Living Arrangements
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Originally Posted by Cindy
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why are you pleading the 5th ???  
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02-12-2009, 11:09 PM
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Resident PeaceMaker
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Re: Living Arrangements
I tell you my faults and failings are my own.I have made errors in judgement and such and I have no-one to blame but myself.
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People who are always looking for fault,can find it easily all they have to do,is look into their mirror.
There they can find plenty of fault.
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02-13-2009, 07:42 AM
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Sister Alvear
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Re: Living Arrangements
I really cannot see a man and a woman living in the same house (sharing a house) terms and being above others talking about them. While it is true to the pure all things are pure it is also true we should do our best NOT to give someone a reason or doubt to talk about us...
Think how many times people may have said things about anyone of us and we were not guilty...talk hurts so the writer of old admonished us to shun from the appearance of evil .So if we KNOW ahead of time people will talk then why do it?
At the same time I know if two ladies (godly) live together to share expenses people sometimes still talk...so the tongue will always have something to say...but we can do our best to live above reproach.
If I shared a house with a lady I would do my best not to be together at every moment...like I have seen some... People would know I have my interests, my life...etc...
It is sad that people seem to always imagine evil but it is the society we live in...
I am a people person and to think I would have to be alone is terrible...I would want someone around even if it were just for the noise...
Both of my sisters live alone and one keeps a television on all the time just for the noise...
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02-13-2009, 08:00 AM
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Re: Living Arrangements
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Originally Posted by Sister Alvear
I really cannot see a man and a woman living in the same house (sharing a house) terms and being above others talking about them. While it is true to the pure all things are pure it is also true we should do our best NOT to give someone a reason or doubt to talk about us...
Think how many times people may have said things about anyone of us and we were not guilty...talk hurts so the writer of old admonished us to shun from the appearance of evil .So if we KNOW ahead of time people will talk then why do it?
At the same time I know if two ladies (godly) live together to share expenses people sometimes still talk...so the tongue will always have something to say...but we can do our best to live above reproach.
If I shared a house with a lady I would do my best not to be together at every moment...like I have seen some... People would know I have my interests, my life...etc...
It is sad that people seem to always imagine evil but it is the society we live in...
I am a people person and to think I would have to be alone is terrible...I would want someone around even if it were just for the noise...
Both of my sisters live alone and one keeps a television on all the time just for the noise...
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Thank you, Mother A...seems we are all in agreement here... 
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02-13-2009, 08:05 AM
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Re: Living Arrangements
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Originally Posted by Sister Alvear
I really cannot see a man and a woman living in the same house (sharing a house) terms and being above others talking about them. While it is true to the pure all things are pure it is also true we should do our best NOT to give someone a reason or doubt to talk about us...
Think how many times people may have said things about anyone of us and we were not guilty...talk hurts so the writer of old admonished us to shun from the appearance of evil .So if we KNOW ahead of time people will talk then why do it?
At the same time I know if two ladies (godly) live together to share expenses people sometimes still talk...so the tongue will always have something to say...but we can do our best to live above reproach.
If I shared a house with a lady I would do my best not to be together at every moment...like I have seen some... People would know I have my interests, my life...etc...
It is sad that people seem to always imagine evil but it is the society we live in...
I am a people person and to think I would have to be alone is terrible...I would want someone around even if it were just for the noise...
Both of my sisters live alone and one keeps a television on all the time just for the noise...
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Absolutely True. This has been an awesome thread with some very useful information. The personalized posts were absurd, but I love the fact that all of us can agree that this is not a good idea and for obvious reasons.
Those who truly know me, understand I am conservative at heart, and many times I say things to play the devil's advocate role and get the discussion and minds churning. It really isn't always about me, even though many of you think so.
OneAccord had an excellent post and is truly a gentleman and understands the roles of husband and wife as they should be lived out according to God's word.
Blessings to all,
Rhoni
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