This is not about bashing...please don't to there...this is just what my church was like and my Pastor wanted it....we didn't think it was necessary so we left! I love them, and I hope nothing but the best for them, I just think fear rules them and to me that is soooooo sad!
Rules...
1. No talking on the phone for more than 10 minutes
2. No friends outside of church, not even family (it was discouraged strongly)
3. No more than three families at a time in your home and not too often, if you had a gathering you are suppose to ask everyone in the church so no one gets offended.
4. No home bible studies without the ministry being there
5. You must attend all fellowships
6. So lunch dates, or shopping with friends even the ones in church...
7. No important decisions made without consulting the pastor...like, buying a car(new, used, how much you can spend)...same with a home or property.
8. You were not allowed to move, unless you had his OK.
Being we are older we did not attend parenting classes or marriage classes so we missed out on a lot of the rules...but over time we learned. This is not everything, but for the moment its enough...I might add more as I think of them.....
1. Pretty much…if you were talking more than 10 minutes your just gossiping! Funny though I had several very long conversations with my Pastor!
2. I don’t know how you win the lost if you don’t fellowship with them, you need to make a friend before they will want to hear your testimony…
3. Yes it is…but thems the rules, and that is why the church does not grow. It has a revolving door too many rules
4. NO home bible studies….I wanted to start a ladies bible study group, was told NO because we need to be there e to be sure you don’t get off track!
5. You were talked to if you did not attend all fellowships…scolded!
6. No daytime activities with friends….idle time…fun time
7. Nothing more here
8. I agree brother that is why we left….it was oppressive….
I just don't understand it really. WHY would a pastor want to overload himself with monitoring all this?? isn't pastoring stressful enough?
what does he really care?? I mean, is he really THAT concerned for the peoples' souls ??
I recall now ...someone said you had to consult the pastor if you and your husband was going to have another child ????????
also, Did you let of ALL rules and standards? if so, was it a result of these silly rules ?
sounds to me like the pastor has WAY TOO MUCH time on his hands...making up all of those silly rules!!!!!!!
now I do not know how true this is but i was told that there was a church years ago that taught that WHITE was the color of purity. So, everything that had to do with a personal nature had to be WHITE.
white Panties, White socks, white tissue, white toilet paper, white bras and under garments.
now I do not know how true this is but i was told that there was a church years ago that taught that WHITE was the color of purity. So, everything that had to do with a personal nature had to be WHITE.
white Panties, White socks, white tissue, white toilet paper, white bras and under garments.
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