Irreconcilable Differences

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by COOPER

NO WAY!!!

Way - it's a no fault state.


This is a good thread and isn't really about divorce - - let's get it back on track.

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

In Tennessee you can't file for divorce and use adultery for the reason, therefore I had no other choice but Irreconcilable Differences.

The same in the state of Indiana

[Rhoni]

No Fault Divorce is a tool of satan to destroy homes and marriages.

Originally Posted by Rhoni

No Fault Divorce is a tool of satan to destroy homes and marriages.

Tell me about it.

[Nahum]

Originally Posted by Pastor Poster

I used to mock people who made that kind of claim to end a marriage.

Irreconcilable differences.

I used to think that there was no difference so great that a resolution could not be reached. I used to think that the "irreconcilable differences" claim was just an excuse to get out of a marriage, and swap up. But the older I get, the more I realize there really are some differences that cannot be resolved.

Understand that I am not excusing divorce. I still believe that a person has a moral obligation to stand by the vows they made to their spouse, and to God. But I can see how two people can diverge after a while. How life can effect major personality changes. So much so, that a person becomes unrecognizable after a while. This is why quality time in marriage must have its place. It minimizes the differences as people grow together.

I have several questions about "irreconcilable differences".

How should we handle the irreconcilable differences that arise in our lives outside of marriage?
How long do you stay with an employer you are consistently at odds with?
How long do you stay in an organization you disagree with?
How long do you stay in a church that is headed in a different direction than you want to go?

What level of disagreement is tolerable and acceptable? At what point do you cut bait and run?

Rhoni, care to take a stab at my questions as posted above?

[Whole Hearted]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

No Fault Divorce is a tool of satan to destroy homes and marriages.

Amen

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by Pastor Poster

Rhoni, care to take a stab at my questions as posted above?

I'll try...let me copy and paste...

[MissBrattified]

All relationships require consistent, life-long effort in order to last. From all parties involved. (Regardless of which type of relationship you're referring to.)

[crakjak]

Originally Posted by revrandy

There are two roads folks can take..

They can Grow together...

or they can grow apart...

Folks that grow together foster relationship and usually stick it out..

Folks that grow apart don't foster or nuture the relationship and usually wind up in seperate boats going opposite ways..

it all depends on what one wants to do..

Foster/ Nurture... allows for compromise and pliability in the relationship...

To put it very succinctly, "It takes two to tango." Some folks absolutely marry badly, some choose misery and others decide it is not worth it. Some situations are so bad that it is not good for any concerned. This is true of all relationships, there is a time to admit I am better off without this relationship.

When a relative told me that her drunken husband held a gun to her head and threaten to blow it off, I told her she was better off without him.

[Nahum]

Originally Posted by MissBrattified

All relationships require consistent, life-long effort in order to last. From all parties involved. (Regardless of which type of relationship you're referring to.)

Can a person change so drastically that you would choose to break fellowship with them? If your job changed it's expectations of you, how long would it take for you to quit? If your church slipped into liberality, how long before you leave?