You misinterpret the Pauline epistles, especially when it comes to keeping standards for salvation. Your interpretation is faulty. So, while you condemn a soul to Hell for wearing women's pants, cutting hair, wearing jewelry, there are no scriptures in the Bible which explicitly forbid such a thing.
Legalism always focuses on how they can save and keep themselves saved. Christianity focuses on Christ's total, complete, finished, and lasting work in salvation.
Let me state this as well. Jesus name baptism does not save. Taking baptism is a sign of salvation, not to be saved. Man has never had that much power, and never will have that kind of power to save themselves. I believe Jesus name baptism is a commandment to the believer, but I also believe that this is not a salvation issue. Some read
Matthew 28:19 and see obedience to those words. Does this mean they are not saved? And, according to classic Oneness theology, no one was saved prior to 1913, so what of those prior to our precious movement's beginning?
Please, spare your legalism, and cease with your own good works. Our works are as filthy rags if we use them as a mean to pry the door to heaven open. Scripture even declares that our righteousness is as a filthy menstrual cloth. So, regardless of how you are baptized or whether you speak in tongues, if you depend upon what you do to get into Heaven, instead of focusing upon the finished work of christ, your salvation is fake.
Works cannot save, period. It is only by grace we are saved through faith. It is a gift from God. It is not of works. When you stand before the throne and they ask why you should be in Heaven, and you testify of anything except your faith only in the finished work of Christ, your inability to save yourself, and the fact that you have repented of your sins and place faith alone in Christ for your salvation, my friend, hell will open her mouth. It will not be because you obeyed
Acts 2:38, but it will be that you took
Acts 2:38, attributed your own obedience and righteousness in your ability to obey, and thentrusted in that instead of Christ.
I said it once, and I'll say it again, that baptism should be dones by a believer in the name of Jesus Christ as a believer, not to become a believer.