America is the only nation in the world that allows a time of adolesence. Maturity is individual and it corresponds to the amount of responsibility they have been given and how they handle it. It appears that men mature later than women that is why car insurance is higher for males than females.
If your son wants to be treated like an adult...let him take on the responsibilities of an adult.
Blessings,
Rhoni
So true, that is why we have 12 year old boys in 35 year-old bodies.
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Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
"You will be hated for my sake-Just remember that it should be for MY sake and not YOURS-
Do NOT act in such a way as to be offensive, and then blame it on me"
Don't be so hard on yourself. None of us get a trial run at parenting. All we have to go on is what we learned from our parents. It is not too late though...go to a mentor in your assembly who has raised a few children and study the word together to help understand God's plan for family hierarchy, ect.
Some parents do the best they can with what they have to work with...and when the child becomes an adult they have no one but themselves to blame if they succeed or fail. Children who don't like the way their parents did it live their whole life trying to prove that they can do it better...and in the face of life's reality find themselves making the same mistakes.
Pray and train is all we can do. If your 18 year old won't abide by house rules...let him/her find their own way...tough love...but if you don't you continue to enable the behavior and they know they can get away with it because they have always gotten away with it.
Praying for you Brother...I am not a perfect parent either but I did my best and now my children are trying to prove they can do it better...they'll find out the same thing you and I found out
I think it's important to treat them with the level of respect and freedoms that correspond with their age and maturity. The older my kids get, the more I'm realizing that I can't keep treating them like children and running roughshod over their desires.
There are many times when dealing with them, that I take a step back and think about the respect factor. The more I've respected them, the more they've respected me and the descisions made, and the more they learn and grow instead of coming through a situation with a bad attitude.
Just as when they were children, they have to continually be taught how to deal with their feelings and desires. When they were little we could just say 'No'. Then as they grew we said, 'Not right now, it wouldn't be good for you'. Then the teen years hit and we have to say, 'That's not a good idea, it will not work because of dah-dah-dah-dah-dah'. Now I'm learning as they near the adult mark, I find myself saying more often than not, 'I don't think that's a good idea, what do you think?' in hopes that it is preparing them to think about the consequences themselves and make wise choices when they become adults.
Sorry...I'm just rambling.....
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'Some folk don't understand that the middle "F" in AFF is the most important ingredient!' -noeticknight
Don't be so hard on yourself, kids are a lot hard work. I'll admit if it was not for my hubby being the hard ball, the no person, I'm sure my kids would be monsters....Because I'm way to soft!
I think it's important to treat them with the level of respect and freedoms that correspond with their age and maturity. The older my kids get, the more I'm realizing that I can't keep treating them like children and running roughshod over their desires.
There are many times when dealing with them, that I take a step back and think about the respect factor. The more I've respected them, the more they've respected me and the descisions made, and the more they learn and grow instead of coming through a situation with a bad attitude.
Just as when they were children, they have to continually be taught how to deal with their feelings and desires. When they were little we could just say 'No'. Then as they grew we said, 'Not right now, it wouldn't be good for you'. Then the teen years hit and we have to say, 'That's not a good idea, it will not work because of dah-dah-dah-dah-dah'. Now I'm learning as they near the adult mark, I find myself saying more often than not, 'I don't think that's a good idea, what do you think?' in hopes that it is preparing them to think about the consequences themselves and make wise choices when they become adults.
Sorry...I'm just rambling.....
Mrs
So true! My son is an adult, and a responsible one at that. He really should be on his own by now,we all know that, he a man, no longer a boy! He stay on with us due to the fact he knows we need the help, we are getting older, dad has some health issues and no longer can drive and do a lot things he use to. We are in the middle of major building project these last few months.
He has set money aside to build himself a home for the last three years, he has a great job, we have giving him 5 acres of our land to build on, free and clear. We cannot think of a better neighbor to have.
Likewise if our daughters want move onto our land that be great as well, the more the marry.
Re: 18 yr. olds... children/adults?
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