I was a good kid, just ask some......... nevermind.
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If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
2 Chronicles 7:14 KJV
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? Micah 6:8 KJV
Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. 1 John 3:2 KJV
I have always avoided confrontation at all costs, but as an adult have slowly learned that this approach was not always serving me well. I have learned that sometimes I need to address the issue, some things you don't need to walk away from.
Depends on what its about. Attack me, I may walk away. Attack my husband or children (or anyone else I care about), and you may not be able to walk away. (Figuratively speaking, of course)
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"God, send me anywhere, only go with me. Lay any burden on me, only sustain me. And sever any tie in my heart except the tie that binds my heart to Yours."
--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
I found that you can have a look that is stern but not caustic and you will normally make the other person settle down because first of all, they can tell that you are trying to be understanding, but you won't let them push you around.
We have only raised our voice, a little elevated - but firm, to two children in all the years we have been working with them in church. When they try to test you in front of all the other children, you have to stop that. Staying calm always works.
When we worked with the youth an irate mother called me and proceeded to try and tear me up over the phone. Her daughter allowed another boy in the youth group to drop her off after the function. Well, that is NOT my responsibility.
I stopped her in the middle of her ranting, because she was and still is a major "in your face" ranter - I said firmly, "What you won't be doing is calling my house and talking to me in any manner you want."
She is very friendly with me to this day, although she doesn't attend church. Why are people like that? lol You stand up to them and they want to be your best friend!
I avoid confrontation. My mom can be so brusk, so in your face "Im right and you're wrong" and "I am old and can say what I want"-she does not mind if her words causes others to be hurt.
If I must say something I try to say it in the kindest way possible. If someone gets an attitude, I back away. I pray, I don't thing God wants me to be right to the point of having a bad attitude about anything.
I was just thinking tonight about how we act/react when confronted.
When someone confronts you either online or in the store, street, work, etc; do you either "fight" or "walk away" for the sake of peace.
OH my goodness to extremes here....I am a fighter, but not a lover of bloodshed! Well most of the time, but I have been is some very serious disagreements with friends and it can really be painful! I like to be right most of us do, but I am willing to consider that I may be wrong!
I can't vote either way... as each circumstance is different I find.
Sometimes I'll "fight"... sometimes I'll discuss... sometimes I'll keep my opinion to myself.
I don't like to cast pearls before swine... it's a waste of good pearls. :-)
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Psalm 19:14
Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.
Attack me, I may walk away. Attack my husband or children (or anyone else I care about), and you may not be able to walk away. (Figuratively speaking, of course) 
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