For those who want to know...RULES at my church! - Page 19

#**181** 10-29-2007, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by freeatlast

It's no joke JM. I have seen it and lived thru it, in both upc and amf churchs

I am ashamed that I spent twenty years under this bondage.

I thank God that I am free at last.

I am going to move on to some other threads now. Talking about this old garbage is not amusing to me.

Opens old wounds that I don't want to be scratching.

Peace to all and my prayers for all, that you find healing from the wounds inflicted upon you.

here is a hug for you.....thanks for coming in and helping show what pain some of us have been through!

LaVonne · #**182** 10-30-2007, 08:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker

I was remembering anew convert that came in by way of ACTS...his daughter wanted to have a BDay party and he was told only if he included ALL the kids in the church......which is just silly sense many were way too old!

I remember that situation. Remember though, since they were not church members, different rules could apply.

LaVonne · #**183** 10-30-2007, 08:40 AM

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Originally Posted by JaneEyre

Submission is one thing and stupidity is another. Good Lord, why would anyone want so much control over other people's lives? The person who does this may be very insecure and afraid of losses. We owe our pastor honor and respect but this is way over the edge, STS. How are you now STS? What kind of church do you attend? I haven't read the whole thread.

We went back too...we had the understanding that the leadership had changed a lot. It did appear to be this way, but the longer we were there, we witnessed the leadership slip back into their old ways and they lost many, many precious people once again.

#**184** 10-30-2007, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by CareyM

I remember that situation. Remember though, since they were not church members, different rules could apply.

Good way to keep them from becoming church members too!

#**185** 10-30-2007, 08:52 AM

I was remembering another thing...no sleep overs for the kids....

No camping with other families, or vacations...because everyone one might get toooo familiar

we were told the story of a two couples that got too close...over and over....and over...have no clue if it was true or not, or just a story to scare us into not getting toooo close to anyone!

Ya know they really did have a paranoid outlook on life...

Remember when I said that you had to have two broken legs to miss church...well unless your part of the Pastors family or the pastor himself...they were very VAIN!

chseeads · #**186** 10-30-2007, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by JTULLOCK

Pretty sure. King left awhile ago and Glover took it over. Also, Kings nephew is one of my bestfriends and he was on staff there a while. I guess King went to somewhere in Indiana.

He's here, if it's the same guy...from Oregon and same name, so what are the odds? lol

I haven't heard that he's weird or anything though as far as that goes.

crakjak · #**187** 10-30-2007, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker

This is not about bashing...please don't to go there...this is just what my church was like and my Pastor wanted it....we didn't think it was necessary so we left! I love them, and I hope nothing but the best for them, I just think fear rules them and to me that is soooooo sad!

Rules...
1. No talking on the phone for more than 10 minutes
2. No friends outside of church, not even family (it was discouraged strongly)
3. No more than three families at a time in your home and not too often, if you had a gathering you are suppose to ask everyone in the church so no one gets offended.
4. No home bible studies without the ministry being there
5. You must attend all fellowships
6. So lunch dates, or shopping with friends even the ones in church...
7. No important decisions made without consulting the pastor...like, buying a car(new, used, how much you can spend)...same with a home or property.
8. You were not allowed to move, unless you had his OK.

Being we are older we did not attend parenting classes or marriage classes so we missed out on a lot of the rules...but over time we learned. This is not everything, but for the moment its enough...I might add more as I think of them.....

So there ya go Thad....

Children must have very rigid rules, you know children cannot be trusted to do anything right.

#**188** 10-30-2007, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by crakjak

Children must have very rigid rules, you know children cannot be trusted to do anything right.

Thats right...and we got spanked often too....spare the rod ya know...spoil the child....I know their intentions were good, but we know where that road leads....don't we!

crakjak · #**189** 10-30-2007, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by freeatlast

My experience in this type of church was not in a backwoods Apalician mountain church but in a 500 in Sundat school UPCi in illinois.

Thi type of control freak pastor is not limited to any area of the country, or just in the AMF.

I can't believe some that say they have been in pentecost for however many years and they have never seen or heard of these kind of churches.

How about in Dallas,TX 1977!! I hope it is very rare.

#**190** 10-30-2007, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by crakjak

How about in Dallas,TX 1977!! I hope it is very rare.

I don't think its as rare as some would hope, the Internet has given people a way of finding each other and finding out some things that are happening in some churches is not right! Not biblical! Shining the light of truth were previously its been dark and secretative....