Apology

[Nahum]

The problem is, he never apologized for saying it either. He only apologized that some were offended.

But hey, whatever. It's all good. If AFF is known as the reprobate forum - oh well.

Originally Posted by Coonskinner

Come on, Carp.

Her website publishes far and wide every failure of Apostolic ministry that people want to send in.

She has made a place where every preacher-hating, Anti-Apostolic wacko in cyberspace can broadast their venom far and wide.

Her website violates the premise of "tell it not in Gath" about as sorely as it can be violated.

In the name of helping people heal, I personally believe she is an unintentional enabler for whiners who want to go through life displaying their "wounds" for all to see.

Having said that, I believe she is totally sincere, truly cares about people, and is convinced she is doing the right thing.

We exchanged a number of emails and PM's, and I found her to be pleasant, cordial, honest, and really nice to correspond with.

i was honest with her regarding my feelings about her site, and she was objective enough to understand my perspective without agreeing with it.

Ooooooo my word!

Then I am very glad that I never visited it. She is grossly misdirected in her mission to help heal the wounded.

To vent bitterness is to give life to a spring that will flow endlessly. Such springs must be stifled so that it will stagnate and die and dry up rather than let it continue to flow. The mouth is the wellhead to those bitter waters. They must be stopped lest they pollute neighboring springs with those same bitter waters.

[SDG]

Originally Posted by Coonskinner

Lois and I have had a very cordial relationship over the years. I have not heard from her in quite a while, though.

I think she is sincere and well meaning, but I think she does a lot of harm.

She no longer believes the New Birth doctrine, and she once did, so I guess by definition that makes her apostate.

I have prayed for her a good bit, and she invited me to submit an article for publication on her website, but I felt like I shouldn't.

I feel sorry for her, because a pastor friend of mine says she did have a bad experience with a pastor who went off the rails.

How dare she ... question or expose spiritual abuse????

[RevDWW]

Originally Posted by Daniel Alicea

How dare she ... question or expose spiritual abuse????

There is a right way and a wrong way to "expose" problems. How did Jesus teach to handle interpersonal issues?

Originally Posted by Daniel Alicea

How dare she ... question or expose spiritual abuse????

Right. We should never talk about it or expose it. We should ignore it and pretend it does not exist.

We should never enable those that have been hurt to express their pain or warn others of it.

Originally Posted by RevDWW

There is a right way and a wrong way to "expose" problems. How did Jesus teach to handle interpersonal issues?

Lois has not named names... and I don't believe she allows others to do so either.

I could be wrong.

Originally Posted by Ronzo

Right. We should never talk about it or expose it. We should ignore it and pretend it does not exist.

We should never enable those that have been hurt to express their pain or warn others of it.

I hear ya, bro.

One should talk about their pain under the proper conditions and circumstances. One should call into confidence a man/woman of God in whom there is explicit trust that these negative feelings can be laid out and dealt with in prayer, confession and forgiveness.

There is a wrong way to do it. It appears to me from what Coon said that running a web-site for such expressions do little to no good. I suspect that it does far more harm instead.

But, Bro. Keith and Sister Rhoni might be more capabable in this area than I.
So, don't take what I say as a definite item.

[Coonskinner]

Originally Posted by Daniel Alicea

How dare she ... question or expose spiritual abuse????

You're arguing with the Scripture, not me, Dan.

I stand with David.

Besides, who knows whether all the stuff posted is even true?

I do not believe Lois would ever intentionally publish untruths, but what you are getting is a biased
and distorted series of accusations from people of who knows what kind of character.

[revrandy]

I'm a RepoBait... somehows' those ol bass are always spittin' my baits back at me..

[Rico]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

I was only offended for the reputation of the forum. I think this place is awesome....only place I know that such a wide spectrum of folks can post their different opinions, beliefs and ideas and discuss, fuss and most times end up agreeing to disagree.

So, being compared to Lois' sight just hit below the belt. If there are a few bad apples, I didn't want the perception to be the forum itself is bad.

As pointed out to me by a dear friend, if OP thought it was such a terrible place, then why would he be here.

So, I accepted that his dry sense of humor and his belief that there really are a few reprobates here was only what he thought and his opinion doesn't make it so.

I tried to extend an olive branch Sunday night.

The reputation of the forum? You're kidding right? LOL