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RandyWayne · #**101** 06-14-2012, 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by canam

We had an evangelist come to our church one time a real hard core con.acting,sort ,he dint even believe the men should be looking at GQ mag(not that i do ) cause in his mind it stood for generally queer ! one of his boys did something and the assistant told me he witnessed part of, or all of the kids punishment ,he whips his belt off and goes ok boooy, whats it gonna be 10 whoops wit your pants on the floor or 20 wit you pants up, while he is popping the belt , i couldnt believe it, he was lucky i didnt witness it ,im not one to put up with that .Fotunately he has never been back.

I used to tremble in fear at these sort of men. Now I look forward to meeting them. <evil snicker>

AreYouReady? · #**102** 06-14-2012, 02:49 PM

When my youngest was 9 or 10 years old, he started becoming very rebellious to the point of striking me when he could not have his way. I realized back then that I was going to have to put a stop to it right now because it would probably become impossible when he got older and larger.

One day after he smacked me when he could not have his way, I made him look into my eyes and I told him that if he EVER laid another hand on me, his mother, I was going to call Youth Court and have them come to handle him. If he did not want to obey his parents, he will obey Youth Court. If he did not want to live here and obey his parents, he can obey Youth Court and the foster parents they will assign him to. But like it or not, he will obey somebody, if not us. Then I got out the telephone book and showed him the telephone number to Youth Court.

I also told him that nobody is going to love him as much as we do and that it is not our wish for him to leave the home. It is entirely up to him, but I will not tolerate him striking me anymore.

He is in his twenties now and has not ever laid another hand on me since that day. Graduated honor student from college and is now accepted into a professional school for graduate studies.

Sometimes scaring them has a positive effect. It makes them think about what is going to happen to them if they do not straighten up and act decent.

Margies3 · #**103** 06-14-2012, 03:12 PM

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Originally Posted by AreYouReady?

When my youngest was 9 or 10 years old, he started becoming very rebellious to the point of striking me when he could not have his way. I realized back then that I was going to have to put a stop to it right now because it would probably become impossible when he got older and larger.

One day after he smacked me when he could not have his way, I made him look into my eyes and I told him that if he EVER laid another hand on me, his mother, I was going to call Youth Court and have them come to handle him. If he did not want to obey his parents, he will obey Youth Court. If he did not want to live here and obey his parents, he can obey Youth Court and the foster parents they will assign him to. But like it or not, he will obey somebody, if not us. Then I got out the telephone book and showed him the telephone number to Youth Court.

I also told him that nobody is going to love him as much as we do and that it is not our wish for him to leave the home. It is entirely up to him, but I will not tolerate him striking me anymore.

He is in his twenties now and has not ever laid another hand on me since that day. Graduated honor student from college and is now accepted into a professional school for graduate studies.

Sometimes scaring them has a positive effect. It makes them think about what is going to happen to them if they do not straighten up and act decent.

Cindy · #**104** 06-14-2012, 04:28 PM

There is a BIG difference in a spanking and a beating. To me an adult standing over a toddler is scary to them. And then to actually stand over them and hit them with something must be terrifying. But, if you kneel down to their level to talk to them, it's not as scary, but could be more effective. IMO

Margies3 · #**105** 06-14-2012, 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Cindy

There is a BIG difference in a spanking and a beating. To me an adult standing over a toddler is scary to them. And then to actually stand over them and hit them with something must be terrifying. But, if you kneel down to their level to talk to them, it's not as scary, but could be more effective. IMO

MissBrattified · #**106** 06-14-2012, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Cindy

There is a BIG difference in a spanking and a beating. To me an adult standing over a toddler is scary to them. And then to actually stand over them and hit them with something must be terrifying. But, if you kneel down to their level to talk to them, it's not as scary, but could be more effective. IMO

Wisdom speaks.

Truthseeker · #**107** 06-19-2012, 08:08 PM

If one of my kids laid a hand on mom, all she has to do is tell me and it will never happen again sure.

canam · #**108** 06-20-2012, 04:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Margies3

Right! exactly. Most people don't realize that the people at children's services are honestly not there just to take your child away. They have lots of other services they can provide a family - they can teach a parent how to discipline without beating. They can connect a family with counselors if needed (and frankly, if you have a child at 15 who pushes your buttons to the point that you feel the need to choke them, then there is a clear need for intervention!).

more often than not they are a disaster and on a constant power trip, i can fill a book with their screw ups deadly and other wise.

AreYouReady? · #**109** 06-20-2012, 10:38 AM

I have not had to resort to hitting, choking or otherwise physically harming my children. They knew that they had a choice to live here or elsewhere if they did not want to abide by our rules, which were not grevious rules. My oldest son feared the truck keys being taken away so much that he was always home on time. My youngest son did not care to drive or go much of anywhere. He is a computer geek as well and amused himself with the world of computers and tai do. God blessed me with two great kids in a world where all their classmates were drinking, smoking and getting girls pregnant.

And, we did not abide by man's clothing standards of the church, tithe or any of the church requirements to be "holy". The Holy Ghost convicted us of anything He felt was not proper.

I only pray for God's continued blessings and strength to walk with Him in this dying old world.

canam · #**110** 06-20-2012, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by AreYouReady?

I have not had to resort to hitting, choking or otherwise physically harming my children. They knew that they had a choice to live here or elsewhere if they did not want to abide by our rules, which were not grevious rules. My oldest son feared the truck keys being taken away so much that he was always home on time. My youngest son did not care to drive or go much of anywhere. He is a computer geek as well and amused himself with the world of computers and tai do. God blessed me with two great kids in a world where all their classmates were drinking, smoking and getting girls pregnant.

And, we did not abide by man's clothing standards of the church, tithe or any of the church requirements to be "holy". The Holy Ghost convicted us of anything He felt was not proper.

I only pray for God's continued blessings and strength to walk with Him in this dying old world.

The Holy Ghost convicted you of everything, except paying your tithes, when its clearly stated in the Bible