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Old 04-06-2007, 11:30 AM
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Do you employ any of these behaviors?



Manipulative Behavior Inventory
  • Act ignored or forgotten
  • Act unloved or uncared for
  • Act as if you don't have value or worth
  • Play the victim
  • Play the martyr
  • Act helpless
  • Play stupid
  • Throw temper tantrums
  • Act compliant when you don't want to
  • Act befuddled or confused
  • Act judgmental or shame people
  • Use guilt trips
  • Use ridicule
  • Ingratiate yourself with others
  • Exaggerated sincerity
  • Overly charming
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Old 04-06-2007, 11:31 AM
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The more skillfull...the less the person being manipulated is aware of it.
And the less aware of it is the one doing the manipulation. It becomes a way of life to them.
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Old 04-06-2007, 11:31 AM
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Mothers are masters of manipulation.
  • “Go ahead with your trip, no need to worry about your old and frail mother, I’ll just stay at home by myself.”
  • “It’s okay, at my old age, I don’t really expect much, after all it won’t be long until I pass on…”
  • “What can I do, nobody wants to listen to me, people think an old lady like me is useless…”
Can Dads use this too?
I have to remember this when my kids grow up.
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Never known you to be otherwise, Lucy!
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Old 04-06-2007, 11:32 AM
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Can Dads use this too?
I have to remember this when my kids grow up.
YES! My FIL is notorious for this!!!
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Old 04-06-2007, 11:34 AM
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Because someone employs one of these behaviors does not in itself make them a manipulative person. No more than the fact that I play basketball once in a while does not make me a basketball player who regularly goes out and plays basketball. A real basketball player deliberately practices the skills of playing basketball. If a person regularly employs this behavior deliberately and intentionally to control others, then they are a manipulator, because they practice manipulation so as to be skilfull in doing so.
Good point. I wonder, though, how many of us have "lettered" in the sport of manipuation. I know I have my "Letter Jacket" from raising children! Don't have to do it near as often now.
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Old 04-06-2007, 11:37 AM
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Good point. I wonder, though, how many of us have "lettered" in the sport of manipuation. I know I have my "Letter Jacket" from raising children! Don't have to do it near as often now.
You mean it gets better, or do they just end up manipulating dear old dad!
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Old 04-06-2007, 11:40 AM
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You mean it gets better, or do they just end up manipulating dear old dad!
I'm afraid that as the tables turn and we will eventually become the children and our children become the parents, that our tactics will come back to haunt us as they manipulate us!!!

It is just a never ending hopefully not so vicious circle!!!!
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Old 04-06-2007, 11:48 AM
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Manipulation:
  • The act or practice of manipulating.
  • The state of being manipulated.
  • Shrewd or devious management, especially for one's own advantage.
  • Exerting shrewd or devious influence especially for one's own
    advantage; "his manipulation of his friends was scandalous"
  • The action of touching with the hands (or the skillful use of the hands) or by the use of mechanical means [syn: handling]
So, basically manipulation is influence with a negative or malicious connotation.
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So, basically manipulation is influence with a negative or malicious connotation.
Manipulation can be for the benefit of someone else's good. I don't think it has to be malicious, but it certainly can be.
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