Isn't one year the rule of thumb from a proper etiquette POV? But beyond that, who cares? Really? If I die first and my husband is lonely and finds someone to make him happy, I'm fine with him remarrying someone inside of 6 months. Or whatever time frame works for him. If my husband is faithful to me until death, that's good enough.
I've never understood the need to dictate how long people have to grieve or how they are allowed to move past grief or what they're allowed to do after a spouse dies.
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abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
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There is more to consider than the spouse who is grieving. The children, family and extended family are all grieving as well. There should be some consideration given to them as well. I think it would make a difference whether the death was sudden or expected too.
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I know a Nazarene pastor that has been widowed 2 or 3 times. I think a year or so is best.
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I don't believe there is any specific amount of time she (or he) would need to wait however I do think a little common sense needs to be followed. If I died and my wife found a good guy, I'd be thrilled for her. On the other hand, if I died and she found a good guy and he was driving around a new Lexus bought and paid for by my life insurance policy -three months after my funeral, you can BET I would be haunting them in the worst way possible!
I don't believe there is any specific amount of time she (or he) would need to wait however I do think a little common sense needs to be followed. If I died and my wife found a good guy, I'd be thrilled for her. On the other hand, if I died and she found a good guy and he was driving around a new Lexus bought and paid for by my life insurance policy -three months after my funeral, you can BET I would be haunting them in the worst way possible!
Why could you not just be happy for them... look what she had to put up with all those years!
__________________ "It is inhumane, in my opinion, to force people who have a genuine medical need for coffee to wait in line behind people who apparently view it as some kind of recreational activity." Dave Barry 2005
I am a firm believer in the Old Paths
Articles on such subjects as "The New Birth," will be accepted, whether they teach that the new birth takes place before baptism in water and Spirit, or that the new birth consists of baptism of water and Spirit. - THE PENTECOSTAL HERALD Dec. 1945
"It is doubtful if any Trinitarian Pentecostals have ever professed to believe in three gods, and Oneness Pentecostals should not claim that they do." - Daniel Segraves
I don't believe there is any specific amount of time she (or he) would need to wait however I do think a little common sense needs to be followed. If I died and my wife found a good guy, I'd be thrilled for her. On the other hand, if I died and she found a good guy and he was driving around a new Lexus bought and paid for by my life insurance policy -three months after my funeral, you can BET I would be haunting them in the worst way possible!
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Originally Posted by Hoovie
Why could you not just be happy for them... look what she had to put up with all those years!
WIFE: "What would you do if I died? Would you get married again?"
HUSBAND: "Definitely not!"
WIFE: "Why not - don't you like being married?"
HUSBAND: "Of course I do."
WIFE: "Then why wouldn't you remarry?"
HUSBAND: "Okay, I'd get married again."
WIFE: "You would? (with a hurtful look on her face)."
HUSBAND: (makes audible groan).
WIFE: "Would you sleep with her in our bed?"
HUSBAND: "Where else would we sleep?"
WIFE: "Would you replace my pictures with hers?"
HUSBAND: "That would seem like the proper thing to do."
WIFE: "Would she use my golf clubs?"
HUSBAND: "No, she's left-handed."
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