5 Things AFF Doesn't Know About Me!

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

Not me...

I was taught to be a gentleman and treat a lady with respect. While this was a teaching instilled in me very well there was no teaching given me to cope with the prowess and tactics of the "other team".

I didn't know that the other team had a play book. Well friends... they do... and you better know what you are doing before you go tanglin' with one of those girls.

That may be true, BUT, I think it's the man's responsibility by large. When my husband and I were dating and he felt we had spent too much time or it was too late - he would get up and leave. I never asked him to leave, he was the gentleman and did the gentlemanly thing!

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

Not me...

I was taught to be a gentleman and treat a lady with respect. While this was a teaching instilled in me very well there was no teaching given me to cope with the prowess and tactics of the "other team".

I didn't know that the other team had a play book. Well friends... they do... and you better know what you are doing before you go tanglin' with one of those girls.

I was just kidding with you!

You are exactly right though - I wasn't aware of girls like that until a bit later on and they are in fact out there!!!

[Digging4Truth]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

That may be true, BUT, I think it's the man's responsibility by large. When my husband and I were dating and he felt we had spent too much time or it was too late - he would get up and leave. I never asked him to leave, he was the gentleman and did the gentlemanly thing!

Yes ma'am... that is actually my point.

I was taught to be a gentleman... but I was never taught the fine art that your husband had mastered.

I thought people just did right because it was right. I didn't know that you had to make people do what was right.

If it was late then everybody just goes home? Right?

That's what we did... and I thought everyone else did too.

The girls in my house have been known to say "Girls rule... boys drool"

I have taken that as a lesson plan for my son. I tell him... "Girls rule... WHEN boys drool". I tell him that you have to remain in control of the situation. Not in control of people... per se... but in control of the situation. When it is time to go home... then don't take no for an answer. When lines are beginning to be crossed you have to take control of that situation....

These are things I was ill equipped to execute.

I have talked to the young boys in church before and told them... Do you plan on being the head of your household? Yes was the answer, of course.

If you plan on being the head of your household then you MUST be the head of your dating relationship. Your place as spiritual leader begins when you ask her out that first time. That is where you set the stage for the future.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

That may be true, BUT, I think it's the man's responsibility by large. When my husband and I were dating and he felt we had spent too much time or it was too late - he would get up and leave. I never asked him to leave, he was the gentleman and did the gentlemanly thing!

I agree, BUT I believe women know the buttons to push and should be responsible not to go past those bounderies too.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

Yes ma'am... that is actually my point.

I was taught to be a gentleman... but I was never taught the fine art that your husband had mastered.

I thought people just did right because it was right. I didn't know that you had to make people do what was right.

If it was late then everybody just goes home? Right?

That's what we did... and I thought everyone else did too.

The girls in my house have been known to say "Girls rule... boys drool"

I have taken that as a lesson plan for my son. I tell him... "Girls rule... WHEN boys drool". I tell him that you have to remain in control of the situation. Not in control of people... per se... but in control of the situation. When it is time to go home... then don't take no for an answer. When lines are beginning to be crossed you have to take control of that situation....

These are things I was ill equipped to execute.

Totally agree with you on this - "You have to remain in control of the situation, not in control of people." That's the most level headed thinking!

[Trouvere]

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[Digging4Truth]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

I agree, BUT I believe women know the buttons to push and should be responsible not to go past those bounderies too.

Amen... and this is not to paint the women as the "bad guys"... I just think a LOT more teaching needs to go into training our young men that their responsibility in a relationship begins a lot sooner than they realize.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

I agree, BUT I believe women know the buttons to push and should be responsible not to go past those bounderies too.

To a point, but sometimes a man is pushed to see how strong he can be in your life. Perhaps that's a personality quirk for some, I don't know. It is one of mine.

[tbpew]

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

Yes ma'am... that is actually my point.

I was taught to be a gentleman... but I was never taught the fine art that your husband had mastered.

I thought people just did right because it was right. I didn't know that you had to make people do what was right.

If it was late then everybody just goes home? Right?

That's what we did... and I thought everyone else did too.

The girls in my house have been known to say "Girls rule... boys drool"

I have taken that as a lesson plan for my son. I tell him... "Girls rule... WHEN boys drool". I tell him that you have to remain in control of the situation. Not in control of people... per se... but in control of the situation. When it is time to go home... then don't take no for an answer. When lines are beginning to be crossed you have to take control of that situation....

These are things I was ill equipped to execute.

I have talked to the young boys in church before and told them... Do you plan on being the head of your household? Yes was the answer, of course.

If you plan on being the head of your household then you MUST be the head of your dating relationship. Your place as spiritual leader begins when you ask her out that first time. That is where you set the stage for the future.

excellent thoughts
well presented
thank you for your contribution

[tbpew]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Totally agree with you on this - [quoting D4T-->]"You have to remain in control of the situation, not in control of people." That's the most level headed thinking!

this is another example of why is seems that clarity can be realized with just a small change in a viewing angle/perspective....rather than:

"I need to bash your stupidity with my enlightenment".