How to establish authority in marriage?

[Hoovie]

How to establish authority in marriage??

Three words.

Honey, I'm Home!

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by Stephen Hoover

How to establish authority in marriage??

Three words.

Honey, I'm Home!

Now that is funny!

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Sister Alvear

I think if the man fulfills his God given responsibilites the wife has little problem submitting to him...Women find it hard to submit to a bully, a person who just thinks about himself, a persom that wants to show off power or authority...but a real man of God most of us women admire and gladly follow.

You are soooooo right!

[Sister Alvear]

and how are you friend?

[pelathais]

Authority was never too much of a problem in my marriage. I'm pretty good at doing what I'm told.

I had to give my wife some "bad news" today, money-wise. Not too bad, just a disappointment, something we were looking forward to didn't come through. When she looked up at me she had tears in her eyes. Way more of a reaction than I had expected. I was confused to say the least.

At this point I should add that I am pretty much deaf when there's a lot of background noise. I can hear the volume of noise but I cannot make out the distinctions and words are mostly lost in the cacaphony. My kids were just coming into the house as my wife and I were talking and I missed everything she was saying.

Long story short; while we were hugging and saying "hello" and after I had delivered the "bad news" she had gone on to tell me some pretty bad news about a friend of hers. That's why she had tears in her eyes. It wasn't until latter as we were getting the kids fed that she brought up her friend again and had to start from scratch because I had missed the whole thing.

I wonder how many misunderstandings we've had that I just obliviously walked away from simply because I had no idea what she had said to me.

[rgcraig]

Wow.....good point. LISTENING is a BIG KEY to a healthly relationship!

Sorry about the "sorta of bad news."

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by pelathais

Authority was never too much of a problem in my marriage. I'm pretty good at doing what I'm told.

I had to give my wife some "bad news" today, money-wise. Not too bad, just a disappointment, something we were looking forward to didn't come through. When she looked up at me she had tears in her eyes. Way more of a reaction than I had expected. I was confused to say the least.

At this point I should add that I am pretty much deaf when there's a lot of background noise. I can hear the volume of noise but I cannot make out the distinctions and words are mostly lost in the cacaphony. My kids were just coming into the house as my wife and I were talking and I missed everything she was saying.

Long story short; while we were hugging and saying "hello" and after I had delivered the "bad news" she had gone on to tell me some pretty bad news about a friend of hers. That's why she had tears in her eyes. It wasn't until latter as we were getting the kids fed that she brought up her friend again and had to start from scratch because I had missed the whole thing.

I wonder how many misunderstandings we've had that I just obliviously walked away from simply because I had no idea what she had said to me.

These moments happen more often than we know. It is very necessary to state that we didn't hear, or "What I thought was...correct me if I'm wrong..." Clears up misunderstandings before they happen.

Communication is indeed the priority of a healthy relationship.

Blessings, Rhoni

[TRFrance]

Originally Posted by seguidordejesus

How should a man assert or establish his authority or position as head of the household? Obviously he shouldn't beat 'er down every month or so to do that, which is despicable, but it's difficult when you have two strong individuals, even when you both are trying to live as God requires.

Is it the responsibility of the man to make comments like "I'm the boss"?

Should the woman just deal with it and "submit"?

Obviously these are extremes, but how would one tactfully assert what they believe to be their God-mandated role?

I've found that 2 of my good buddies are very helpful in this regard.

Their names? Mr. Smith...and Mr. Wesson !!

(Just kidding, folks. Please... hold off on the angry responses)

All is fine in the France household.

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[seguidordejesus]

I love my wife.