Wedding Rings

[Hoovie]

Originally Posted by chseeads

If rings then, or now, are meant to keep anybody from committing adultery, they need to be worn somewhere other than on a person's finger.

did you just say that??

[chseeads]

I did indeed.

I do not believe that we MUST have a rign to show that we are married for if someone is truly married, then they will glady tell all who may inquire.
I have been married for 24 years to the same lady even. We have not worn wedding bands in years. It has not made one iota of difference in regards to gaining unwanted attention.
I have found that generally speaking, if attention is unwanted, then it will likely be obvious to the person making the advances. However, this is not always the case.

I had a lady that I worked with who for some reason could not keep her hands to herself. I politely told her that I was married and would she please keep her hands off of me. Needless to say, this did not work.
I came home one day and told my wife about it knowing that she would season this problem with prayer. A few days later, the woman left the job in a huff and I have never seen her since. Thank God!!

IMO jemelry is jewelry.
Someone made the comment that God would deck His bride with adornments.
Is it that we cannot wait to see what it may look like so we feel we must do it on this side of heaven?
Are we afraid of allowing Him to make His bride look glorious outside of worldly customs?

Personally, if God wants to do this then IMO He is declaring that it is HIS perogative and not ours.
NI

[Thad]

Originally Posted by NobodyImportant

I do not believe that we MUST have a rign to show that we are married for if someone is truly married, then they will glady tell all who may inquire.
I have been married for 24 years to the same lady even. We have not worn wedding bands in years. It has not made one iota of difference in regards to gaining unwanted attention.
I have found that generally speaking, if attention is unwanted, then it will likely be obvious to the person making the advances. However, this is not always the case.

I had a lady that I worked with who for some reason could not keep her hands to herself. I politely told her that I was married and would she please keep her hands off of me. Needless to say, this did not work.
I came home one day and told my wife about it knowing that she would season this problem with prayer. A few days later, the woman left the job in a huff and I have never seen her since. Thank God!!

IMO jemelry is jewelry.
Someone made the comment that God would deck His bride with adornments.
Is it that we cannot wait to see what it may look like so we feel we must do it on this side of heaven?
Are we afraid of allowing Him to make His bride look glorious outside of worldly customs?

Personally, if God wants to do this then IMO He is declaring that it is HIS perogative and not ours.
NI

But if the Truth REALLY was Told, EvERY Woman down in her heart wants to wear a Big flashy gawdy Ring it's something Inate. the ones who cannot wear one are actually Jealous of the ones who can wear one The ones who claim to have a conviction would change in a heart beat if their Husbands ever changed their stance on it.

I really believe This too

[tamor]

Originally Posted by Thad

But if the Truth REALLY was Told, EvERY Woman down in her heart wants to wear a Big flashy gawdy Ring it's something Inate. the ones who cannot wear one are actually Jealous of the ones who can wear one The ones who claim to have a conviction would change in a heart beat if their Husbands ever changed their stance on it.

I really believe This too

Thad,

I wear two rings. My wedding band and a small ruby with it. I did not want a diamond engagement ring. I do not like big, flashy, gawdy rings. So no - EVERY woman does not want to down in her heart.

Originally Posted by Thad

But if the Truth REALLY was Told, EvERY Woman down in her heart wants to wear a Big flashy gawdy Ring it's something Inate. the ones who cannot wear one are actually Jealous of the ones who can wear one The ones who claim to have a conviction would change in a heart beat if their Husbands ever changed their stance on it.

I really believe This too

I must disagree with you here. We have never really had any real flashy rings.
Our first set was simple gold with platinum and diamonds.
The second round was saphires and diamonds, again real small. My wife picked both out so it was not even my choice.
When we got into ministry, we felt like we should set this down and with the advice of our current pastor we did so.
Honestly, it was not easy to do. It was a sacrifice since the second set had a lot of emotional value.
I can say that it has been worth the sacrifice.
NI

[TalkLady]

Originally Posted by Thad

But if the Truth REALLY was Told, EvERY Woman down in her heart wants to wear a Big flashy gawdy Ring it's something Inate. the ones who cannot wear one are actually Jealous of the ones who can wear one The ones who claim to have a conviction would change in a heart beat if their Husbands ever changed their stance on it.

I really believe This too

A true story that begins with...

Once upon a time, I was engaged before I started going to a Oneness Church and I had a 1 Carat engagement ring. This was many years ago when I was in college, and my boyfriend bought me jewelry. I didn't even think about this when I was typing this afternoon. I have my grandmother's "costume" and "antique" jewelry. I am never tempted to wear it. It's just not me.

No, Thad, every women down in her heart does NOT want a Big, Flashy, gawwwwdy ring. It's not innate. I am NOT jealous of the women who wear one.

...Well, I've sung my LAST song on this subject, I hope....Please, folks, don't get me started on another verse and I sure don't want to sing the chorus...I've been totally too candid today.

[Felicity]

Originally Posted by NobodyImportant

I must disagree with you here. We have never really had any real flashy rings.
Our first set was simple gold with platinum and diamonds.
The second round was saphires and diamonds, again real small. My wife picked both out so it was not even my choice.
When we got into ministry, we felt like we should set this down and with the advice of our current pastor we did so.
Honestly, it was not easy to do. It was a sacrifice since the second set had a lot of emotional value.



I can say that it has been worth the sacrifice.
NI

How so?

Originally Posted by Felicity

How so?

Sometimes to be able to minister, people expect certain things. Your husband is a minister isn't he? If so, then you are probably aware of the fact that some people will not allow you to even pray for them if you do not look a certain way, at least it has been my experience.
Also, there are some preachers that will not allow you to minister in their pulpits if you do not follow the same belief as they do. For the sake of unity, I am willing to toe the line in this respect. I feel unity is more important than any preference that I may have.
NI

[Felicity]

Originally Posted by NobodyImportant

Sometimes to be able to minister, people expect certain things. Your husband is a minister isn't he? If so, then you are probably aware of the fact that some people will not allow you to even pray for them if you do not look a certain way, at least it has been my experience.
Also, there are some preachers that will not allow you to minister in their pulpits if you do not follow the same belief as they do. For the sake of unity, I am willing to toe the line in this respect. I feel unity is more important than any preference that I may have.
NI

Okay. I understand what you're saying. I've taken my rings off (temporarily - for situational reasons) before and would again if there was a good reason for doing so.