PRAY for PO's Daughter and Grandson

[Sweet Pea]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

I'm sure I will hold him tomorrow. Although, if she offers, I think I'll say, "Nawww. I can wait."

Well, I logged in this morning just to see if you had posted any pictures of you holding him.... What did I see - nada, zip....

But I DID get to see beautiful pics of Renda's granddaughter!

Still praying for the peace that passeth all understand to flood your daughter and SIL - HIS peace is sufficient to eradicate the fear that they have. May God bless all of you!

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Sweet Pea

Well, I logged in this morning just to see if you had posted any pictures of you holding him.... What did I see - nada, zip....

But I DID get to see beautiful pics of Renda's granddaughter!

Still praying for the peace that passeth all understand to flood your daughter and SIL - HIS peace is sufficient to eradicate the fear that they have. May God bless all of you!

LOL! Sorry, I didn't feel well on Friday and I am still not well today. I ran by my favorite place for lunch on Friday, they have someone always playing the grand , and called my daughter to say I was going home after I ran some errands. My son is not feeling well either. Anyway, better luck next time. LOL!

[Sweet Pea]

Okay, P.O. - I'm waiting for an update!

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Sweet Pea

Okay, P.O. - I'm waiting for an update!

Me too! Has she or hasn't she been able to hold him yet?

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Sweet Pea

Okay, P.O. - I'm waiting for an update!

LOL!

Originally Posted by rgcraig

Me too! Has she or hasn't she been able to hold him yet?

Update: Still on the monitor. No, I haven't held him yet. I was ill with something for a couple of weeks. Went by today and he was sleeping - of course. I stayed for about an hour and half but I had to leave and didn't have time to wait for him to wake up. He is soooooo cute!!! He would wake up, look around and then fall back asleep. Too adorable.

You know, I used to hate when people would drop by and want to hold my children when they were sleeping. How stupid is that? The only time a mother gets to rest for a while and you want to wake the baby up?! Idiot!

Oh, and they are moving. I got to see all the houses she is looking at and downloaded on her iPhone. I just smiled and agreed that I liked them all. LOL! Icing on the cake! Whatever! LOL! I'm not buying them Christmas presents!!!

[Sweet Pea]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

LOL!



Update: Still on the monitor. No, I haven't held him yet. I was ill with something for a couple of weeks. Went by today and he was sleeping - of course. I stayed for about an hour and half but I had to leave and didn't have time to wait for him to wake up. He is soooooo cute!!! He would wake up, look around and then fall back asleep. Too adorable.

You know, I used to hate when people would drop by and want to hold my children when they were sleeping. How stupid is that? The only time a mother gets to rest for a while and you want to wake the baby up?! Idiot!

Oh, and they are moving. I got to see all the houses she is looking at and downloaded on her iPhone. I just smiled and agreed that I liked them all. LOL! Icing on the cake! Whatever! LOL! I'm not buying them Christmas presents!!!

Yeah, right!

I can't believe that you still haven't had the opportunity to hold him. ??? But as I stated before, I appreciate and admire your attitude through all this. If it was my child, I'd be thinking some pretty bad thoughts. (Probably saying some things I would regret later.)

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Sweet Pea

Yeah, right!

I can't believe that you still haven't had the opportunity to hold him. ??? But as I stated before, I appreciate and admire your attitude through all this. If it was my child, I'd be thinking some pretty bad thoughts. (Probably saying some things I would regret later.)

Yeah, she's only posting what she wants you to think she's doing - - I'm pretty sure she's had a few things to say - maybe not to her daughter, but at least to her hubby.

[Margies3]

PO, I feel so bad for you. I don't know how you can be so good about this. I was thinking earlier today that it must hurt you terribly whenever you look at Renda's pictures of her holding her little granddaughter who is even younger than your new grandson. I pray that God will provide you the strength of character and the patience you need to make it thru until you can finally hold your little treasure.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Sweet Pea

Yeah, right!

I can't believe that you still haven't had the opportunity to hold him. ??? But as I stated before, I appreciate and admire your attitude through all this. If it was my child, I'd be thinking some pretty bad thoughts. (Probably saying some things I would regret later.)

Originally Posted by rgcraig

Yeah, she's only posting what she wants you to think she's doing - - I'm pretty sure she's had a few things to say - maybe not to her daughter, but at least to her hubby.

Originally Posted by Margies3

PO, I feel so bad for you. I don't know how you can be so good about this. I was thinking earlier today that it must hurt you terribly whenever you look at Renda's pictures of her holding her little granddaughter who is even younger than your new grandson. I pray that God will provide you the strength of character and the patience you need to make it thru until you can finally hold your little treasure.

I didn't want to tell this story, but I think I have to.

Let me give some background. I found that I was pregnant with my daughter. Her father offered to pay for an abortion, so I left him. I believed from my Catholic upbringing that this would be akin to murder. I didn't want to have a child, but I wasn't going to murder it either.

Somehow in my thinking, I came to the realization that I was the very person responsible to get my child to heaven. God knew my heart and opened a door to salvation for me. He never left me as a single mom. Once I ran out of money and needed some diapers. Only needing $10, I prayed. My thinking was that I could let her play in the bathtub because it would be easier to clean up after her. Frantic plans! LOL! I put on her last diaper, went down to check the mail and I had a $10 refund check from GMAC who had financed my car. I had made my last payment and had overpaid by $10. LOL! God is good all the time!

I then prayed that I would meet a man and marry before my daughter turned two years old. God answered my prayer and I married my current husband when she was 1 1/2. Before she started Kindergarten we told her the truth, birth certificate issue on registration, and she was devastated from that day and never has gotten over it.

We have been through a lot with her. We all went through a lot with our grandchild being born. Of course, not like Ferd or tstew, but it was a traumatic experience for us.

The underlying issue is that she now has something she can call her own. She can finally feel that she belongs and has a real part of something in her life. She has always been hurt that our son belongs to us both and she has always felt like the outsider. I know some are able to adjust, but she has never been able to do it. I understand her and I know what she is thinking and what she is feeling and so I am patient and respectful of that. It has been painful for me because I can't undo my past and it's ever before me. That's the only part that I hate the most. God has been very good to us, but even then, that doesn't erase everything.

I think ya'll are more worried about me holding him than I am. LOL! Margie, that doesn't bother me to see Renda holding her grandchild. We don't have the same circumstances going on. He's too young to even know who I am and so it's not that big of a deal for me or my husband. We just want our daughter to be happy and she won't be happy or settle down until they take his monitor off. Then, she will be paranoid for a few nights until they adjust. There is no sense in saying anything, it won't fix a thing, it won't change one thing.

Before you comment further, remember, this is my daughter, I am her mother. You know what I'm trying to say. The mother hen syndrome.... LOL!

[Sweet Pea]

P.O. Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry for any part that I played in making you feel that you needed to give us the background. Your comment about "your daughter" and you being a "mother hen" - I can totally identify with! I have tried to be cognizant of this fact and remember it when posting. ALL of our children have some type of hang-up that we can rant about, but we don't want anyone else to ! Believe me, I know about that sort of thing!

I pray that somehow through this path of motherhood, she comes to grip with the fact that your husband is her "daddy". As the old saying goes, "anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a daddy." I have a friend who has been through something very similar with her husband. It has been a long row to hoe. But God is faithful !

It's too late to go and and think about how you might have done things differently - but GOD can heal her broken heart ! Will be praying for you and your family!

In the healing there is peace and healing for you as well! Yes, our past is always before us - but God's grace is sufficient for it all! Don't "know" you personally, but I have come to love you and I am hugging you over the internet right now!