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Originally Posted by Trouvere
Sister Rhoni,
Don't worry I don't need to calm down.I am not that emotional. 
Its possible that your own world view is described in your posting.
You went through some terrible times and had alot of hopes and dreams
wrapped up in that marriage that included the future.No one can fault
that.Women are brought up to see the world from that view.My moms
generation thought it better to sacrifice your life and get behind a man
and help him be successful and for some it is a key to success.They
never thought that they could be successful alone.Marriage and children
was preached as the ultimate climax of womenhood.Many of these same
women faced emotional destruction as men they have supported let them
down and left them for women they thought were better suited for their new successful lifestyles.(thus the invent of valium)That is why we have to rely on God for our own souls.We cannot be
co-dependant.God we can depend on.He will never let us down.
Probably the best thing that can happen to a person though it hurts is to have to depend on God.lv sis.T |
Dear Sis. T,
You are totally correct...I do see from my worldview. The things I went through in the past , although they have a bearing on who I have became, do not hold any power or control of me or my emotions any longer.
Last week I was speaking with a friend and as we talked about old times at JCM, I remembered that many of the traits I possess today, I possessed back then...I just didn't realize it.
Many of the women I know, who are in the same position as I am...like myself, were 'trained' to be good, supportive wives to their spouse's ministries. The men just forgot that they were supposed be supportive of their wives also.
I think my post was also misunderstood by some..the same "some" who only see me through their worldview: My statement about 'success' was in reference to being financially self-supporting through the Bible College process. Most that I went to Bible College with were PK's who's parents paid their way so they could party and act out. Many, like myself worked 1-3 jobs to pay their way through. There were a few, the girls I remember were nurses or had training in medical records and could work a job pulling in good income to pay their school bill as well as have money for play.
While many of the married ministry couples sacrificed in home missions or evangelized...others were better prepared with their background and training to be better off financially. This in no wise is compared to success in the ministry itself.
I gave my youth to Christ and doing God's work. I gave my young adulthood into early middle age to ministry side by side with my EX-husband. I am giving my mature years also to Christ and ministry in the ways that God leads...this is all I know and want to know.
Love & Blessings, Sis. Rhoni
! No one is doubting your ministry...but you did get a higher education than BC!
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