What does that have to do with the price of eggs in China?...If you're going to tell me that a woman over 50 is too old to flirt or be flirted with, that's ridiculous. ...LOL
God bless...I will check in with ya later.
TalkLady
I don't mean to be offensive, so please don't take it as such, but you speak as an older woman who probably doesn't have men looking her direction whether she's wearing a ring or not.
Younger women, on the other hand, can send wrong messages just by being friendly, and if a ring isn't present, embarrassing situations occur.
In the case of my minister friend, she is friendly among her colleagues. She is often approached by people, mainly men (women are a rarity at these conferences) who ask if the seat next to her is taken. It's not, so they sit there. No big deal, is it?
Most of the time, they just talk about church related issues and such. It's nothing more than what goes on here among married men and married women, yet she's been asked more than once if she'd like to meet for lunch....by a man.
She declines, of course, but it's embarrassing for the man who wouldn't have asked if she'd had a ring on, yet he still would have sat there and still would have talked to her about church related issues.
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you are a very wise lady of a great deal of perception.
I did not see your post. In fact, I don't see half the posts or even half the threads either. Had I seen it, I would have commented on the fact that God loves rings. He put rings and other adornments upon his wife. Can he condemn me for putting a ring on my darlings finger since he did the same thing and even a great deal more? No!
On the old forum, I caused quite a furor when I made the statement to the effect that there are preachers so cheap that they use the "holiness" excuse to not buy their darling a beautiful ring. I understand that not all "holiness" preachers are so cheap, but some are. I've seen them lavish themselves with expensive things and finery but leave their wives subdued, neglected and wanting. Yes, I've seen it plenty of times. Most of these women are so precious and uncomplaning that they would endure most anything to please the Lord...though so unneccesary. It truly breaks my heart.
A man's crowning jewel should have a jewel. Mine does. It was the best investment that I have ever made. God saw me. God was pleased that I pleased my darling.
Great post, my brother.
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"I do not see how a person acts married when their spouse isn't around."
The main topic of this thread and your post was "Wedding bands" and you stated:
"I disagree. I have a friend who doesn't wear a wedding band. She is a licensed minister and goes places without her husband, as he has to work. She's been approached numerous times by other single preachers who offer to buy her lunch.
Now, she wasn't flirting, but that ring would have saved some embarrassment!"
I prefer not to wear a wedding band and I am fine with it. ....As far as someone asking someone to buy a lunch, a person can JUST REFUSE. I've worked as a professional for over 30 years (and yes, I'm over 50 - and yes I've been "hit on" recently - if you want to call it that)....Does that make me want to go against what I've been taught and what I believe is right for ME?....No, ma'am.
Blessings to you Heavenly One,
Talk Lady.......I wish I had more time to respond but I don't.
While you are there lifting your hands, pray about giving your beloved wife one. She wants one. She would be so thrilled that she will keep you smiling for years to come. God will be well pleased too. So far, he is not very wll pleased with a lot of pseudo-holiness...especially those who brag about it. It is shallow.
Now Elder do you really want to start this AGAIN????? If so we will but last time it upset you very much. But I am not gonna take these pot shots and let you by. It is up to you.
Gen 24:15 Before he had finished speaking, behold, Rebekah, who was born to Bethuel the son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham's brother, came out with her water jar on her shoulder. Gen 24:16The young woman was very attractive in appearance, a maiden whom no man had known. She went down to the spring and filled her jar and came up. Gen 24:17 Then the servant ran to meet her and said, "Please give me a little water to drink from your jar." Gen 24:18 She said, "Drink, my lord." And she quickly let down her jar upon her hand and gave him a drink. Gen 24:19 When she had finished giving him a drink, she said, "I will draw water for your camels also, until they have finished drinking." Gen 24:20 So she quickly emptied her jar into the trough and ran again to the well to draw water, and she drew for all his camels. Gen 24:21 The man gazed at her in silence to learn whether the LORD had prospered his journey or not. Gen 24:22 When the camels had finished drinking, the man took a gold ring weighing a half shekel, and two bracelets for her arms weighing ten gold shekels,
Gen 24:47 Then I asked her, 'Whose daughter are you?' She said, 'The daughter of Bethuel, Nahor's son, whom Milcah bore to him.' So I put the ring on her nose and the bracelets on her arms.Est 8:2 And the king took off his signet ring, which he had taken from Haman, and gave it to Mordecai. And Esther set Mordecai over the house of Haman.
Job 42:11 Then came to him all his brothers and sisters and all who had known him before, and ate bread with him in his house. And they showed him sympathy and comforted him for all the evil that the LORD had brought upon him. And each of them gave him a piece of money and a ring of gold.
Pro 25:12 Like a gold ring or an ornament of gold is a wise reprover to a listening ear.
Eze 16:6 "And when I passed by you and saw you wallowing in your blood, I said to you in your blood, 'Live!' I said to you in your blood, 'Live!' Eze 16:7 I made you flourish like a plant of the field. And you grew up and became tall and arrived at full adornment. Your breasts were formed, and your hair had grown; yet you were naked and bare. Eze 16:8 "When I passed by you again and saw you, behold, you were at the age for love, and I spread the corner of my garment over you and covered your nakedness; I made my vow to you and entered into a covenant with you, declares the Lord GOD, and you became mine. Eze 16:9 Then I bathed you with water and washed off your blood from you and anointed you with oil. Eze 16:10 I clothed you also with embroidered cloth and shod you with fine leather. I wrapped you in fine linen and covered you with silk. Eze 16:11And I adorned you with ornaments and put bracelets on your wrists and a chain on your neck. Eze 16:12 And I put a ring on your nose and earrings in your ears and a beautiful crown on your head. Eze 16:13 Thus you were adorned with gold and silver, and your clothing was of fine linen and silk and embroidered cloth. You ate fine flour and honey and oil. You grew exceedingly beautiful and advanced to royalty. Eze 16:14 And your renown went forth among the nations because of your beauty, for it was perfect through the splendor that I had bestowed on you, declares the Lord GOD. Eze 16:15 "But you trusted in your beauty and played the whore because of your renown and lavished your whorings on any passerby; your beauty became his. Eze 16:16 You took some of your garments and made for yourself colorful shrines, and on them played the whore. The like has never been, nor ever shall be. Eze 16:17You also took your beautiful jewels of my gold and of my silver, which I had given you, and made for yourself images of men, and with them played the whore.
Hag 2:23 On that day, declares the LORD of hosts, I will take you, O Zerubbabel my servant, the son of Shealtiel, declares the LORD, and make you like a signet ring, for I have chosen you, declares the LORD of hosts."
Luk 15:22 But the father said to his servants, 'Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet.
There is no argument this happened but are you saying these passages would be classed as moderate today?
I don't mean to be offensive, so please don't take it as such, but you speak as an older woman who probably doesn't have men looking her direction whether she's wearing a ring or not.
Younger women, on the other hand, can send wrong messages just by being friendly, and if a ring isn't present, embarrassing situations occur.
In the case of my minister friend, she is friendly among her colleagues. She is often approached by people, mainly men (women are a rarity at these conferences) who ask if the seat next to her is taken. It's not, so they sit there. No big deal, is it?
Most of the time, they just talk about church related issues and such. It's nothing more than what goes on here among married men and married women, yet she's been asked more than once if she'd like to meet for lunch....by a man.
She declines, of course, but it's embarrassing for the man who wouldn't have asked if she'd had a ring on, yet he still would have sat there and still would have talked to her about church related issues.
I am a professional woman who maintains a good weight..I still have all my teeth....My hair hasn't fallen out, but is a little thinner...I don't have zits anymore and not an overabundance of wrinkles......It may be hard for you to believe, but I'm not considered unattractive, even though I am over 50...I've had "flirtations" directed toward me in my 20s, my 30s, my 40s, and I know it may be hard for you to believe but even in my 50s....As far as being friendly, It's OK to be friendly....People should know their boundaries and have the Holy Ghost to direct them. ...Different things work for different people, Sis. I don't want to wear a wedding band. I respect your right to wear one if you do. Are you married?
you are a very wise lady of a great deal of perception.
I did not see your post. In fact, I don't see half the posts or even half the threads either. Had I seen it, I would have commented on the fact that God loves rings. He put rings and other adornments upon his wife. Can he condemn me for putting a ring on my darlings finger since he did the same thing and even a great deal more? No!
On the old forum, I caused quite a furor when I made the statement to the effect that there are preachers so cheap that they use the "holiness" excuse to not buy their darling a beautiful ring. I understand that not all "holiness" preachers are so cheap, but some are. I've seen them lavish themselves with expensive things and finery but leave their wives subdued, neglected and wanting. Yes, I've seen it plenty of times. Most of these women are so precious and uncomplaning that they would endure most anything to please the Lord...though so unneccesary. It truly breaks my heart.
A man's crowning jewel should have a jewel. Mine does. It was the best investment that I have ever made. God saw me. God was pleased that I pleased my darling.
Was one of those cheap preachers Elder Kilgore???????????????????? You aksed for it and I ain't gonna let you by with this. I the men I know who preach against rings are NO MORE cheaper than Elder Kligore who has NEVER bought his wife a ring!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And God told him to take them off!!!!!!
...LOL
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