If a woman wants to flirt, a wedding band is not going to stop her nor is it going to protect her if someone wants to flirt with her. Sorry, but I personally could never see the logic there. A person knows whether a woman or man is married (and not looking) by the actions, not the wedding band. I respect your beliefs but for me I don't see that a wedding band has any significance as far as to flirt or receive flirtations.
I disagree. I have a friend who doesn't wear a wedding band. She is a licensed minister and goes places without her husband, as he has to work. She's been approached numerous times by other single preachers who offer to buy her lunch.
Now, she wasn't flirting, but that ring would have saved some embarrassment!
I'm not sure how a person can 'act married' when their spouse isn't around.
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Btw, if God can put jewels upon his wife (Jerusalem) and earrings in her ears, I am sure he is quite pleased that I put a jewel on my wife's finger. In fact, I am certain of it. The Word and the Spirit agree.
Eze 16:11 I decked thee also with ornaments, and I put bracelets upon thy hands, and a chain on thy neck.
Eze 16:12 And I put a jewel on thy forehead, and earrings in thine ears, and a beautiful crown upon thine head.
Eze 16:13 Thus wast thou decked with gold and silver; and thy raiment [was of] fine linen, and silk, and broidered work; thou didst eat fine flour, and honey, and oil: and thou wast exceeding beautiful, and thou didst prosper into a kingdom.
Eze 16:14 And thy renown went forth among the heathen for thy beauty: for it [was] perfect through my comeliness, which I had put upon thee, saith the Lord GOD.
Brother, I posted this exact passage earlier and it was disregarded. People don't want Bible, they want opinions!
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I read this was an idiomatic way of saying "Let it not only be,,,,," you know the bible is full of hyperbolies
I agree.
It's funny. Apostolic women are well known for hairdos and dress attire, yet Peter says not to be known [only] by your gold, plaiting of the hair, or apparel. Certain Apostolics use that to say we can't wear jewelry, and I'm not sure how they get that from that passage.
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The way a woman presents herself is the primary reason she doesn't get unwanted male attention - IMHO. I don't pay much attention to whether or not others wear jewelry, wedding rings. Those things are just not issues for me but I do pay attention to actions.
Can I ask if you are older than say.......50?
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[QUOTE=HeavenlyOne;119820]I disagree. I have a friend who doesn't wear a wedding band. She is a licensed minister and goes places without her husband, as he has to work. She's been approached numerous times by other single preachers who offer to buy her lunch.
Now, she wasn't flirting, but that ring would have saved some embarrassment!
I'm not sure how a person can 'act married' when their spouse isn't around.[/QUOTE]
Quote above is from Heavenly One...LOL
Heavenly One, I am totally shocked by this comment. The wedding band doesn't mean that a person is "acting married"...All the wedding band denotes is that the person "is married"...Being married and acting married are two totally different things. If a person wants to wear a wedding band, that's the person's business - but please don't tell me that the wedding band helps anyone "act married." ....Sorry, if I seem terse here...I don't mean to be.
A woman acts married when the husband is not around by being meek, humble, keeping silence when silence is due, by keeping any nonverbal communication or mannerisms appropriate, not laughing at dirty jokes and not acting like a lady who's looking for a man... Also, when she's not dressing in a provocative way and is continually striving to be Christlike, that helps, too...I said all of that helps a person "act married when the spouse is not around."...LOL... People know us by our fruits, not whether we have on a wedding band or not. The same may apply for a man except it's not expected so much for a man to be meek or humble...LOL.
I appreciate your comments, Heavenly One, and respect anyone's choice to wear a wedding band - but for me, I prefer NOT to wear one. I prefer my actions to speak more than a wedding band.
Brother, I posted this exact passage earlier and it was disregarded. People don't want Bible, they want opinions!
Sister,
you are a very wise lady of a great deal of perception.
I did not see your post. In fact, I don't see half the posts or even half the threads either. Had I seen it, I would have commented on the fact that God loves rings. He put rings and other adornments upon his wife. Can he condemn me for putting a ring on my darlings finger since he did the same thing and even a great deal more? No!
On the old forum, I caused quite a furor when I made the statement to the effect that there are preachers so cheap that they use the "holiness" excuse to not buy their darling a beautiful ring. I understand that not all "holiness" preachers are so cheap, but some are. I've seen them lavish themselves with expensive things and finery but leave their wives subdued, neglected and wanting. Yes, I've seen it plenty of times. Most of these women are so precious and uncomplaning that they would endure most anything to please the Lord...though so unneccesary. It truly breaks my heart.
A man's crowning jewel should have a jewel. Mine does. It was the best investment that I have ever made. God saw me. God was pleased that I pleased my darling.
What does that have to do with the price of eggs in China?...If you're going to tell me that a woman over 50 is too old to flirt or be flirted with, that's ridiculous. ...LOL
God bless...I will check in with ya later.
TalkLady
Heavenly One, I am totally shocked by this comment. The wedding band doesn't mean that a person is "acting married"...All the wedding band denotes is that the person "is married"...Being married and acting married are two totally different things. If a person wants to wear a wedding band, that's the person's business - but please don't tell me that the wedding band helps anyone "act married." ....Sorry, if I seem terse here...I don't mean to be.
I said nothing about a ring meaning that a person 'acts married' (those were YOUR words), but it does denote they are indeed married. If one isn't 'acting married', it doesn't mean they are flirting instead. You seem to think it's one or the other, but that's not so.
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A woman acts married when the husband is not around by being meek, humble, keeping silence when silence is due, by keeping any nonverbal communication or mannerisms appropriate, not laughing at dirty jokes and not acting like a lady who's looking for a man...
Ummm....what part of 'she attends ministerial meetings without her husband present' did you miss? Aren't we talking about Apostolics here?
BTW, I keep to the above, yet I'm also not married.
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Also, when she's not dressing in a provocative way and is continually striving to Christlike, that helps, too. People know us by our fruits, not whether we have on a wedding band or not. The same may apply for a man except it's not expected so much for a man to be meek or humble...LOL.
Again, I thought we were talking about Apostolics here.
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I appreciate your comments, Heavenly One, and respect anyone's choice to wear a wedding band - but for me, I prefer NOT to wear one. I prefer my actions to speak more than a wedding band.
God bless and wishing you well,
TalkLady
Thanks, and I feel the same, but your post wasn't personal to you, but what you felt about everyone else as well. That's why I jumped in.
I believe people should live according to their convictions, but when those convictions are questioned in a way that makes the person wrong for living by them, that when these kinds of discussions occur.
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