Teens and "dating"???

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by Dordrecht

So…he's not a Christian.

Are you?

Yes, what does it have to do with the thread?

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by Pliny

I teach against "dating".
I teach "courtship".

Dating is focused on having "fun".
Courtship is focused on relationship.

True, I don't think he thinks of dating like we would.

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by JacobSauceda

There is nothing wrong with a guy liking a girl, and him "dating" her, no matter the age. What you need to do is show your son that there are things to do, and not to do. The bible instructs parents to show their kids what is right, not to control their every move. Although, there does need to be rules and guidelines and help him take steps in the relationship.

Let him build your trust. At 16, go on the "dates" with him. Let him and his girlfriend make their own plans, you just go along for the ride. Over time, give them some space. Drop them off at the restaurant instead of eating at a different table. By the time he is 17, you should allow him on dates by his self.

Be open to listening how he feels. Don't talk, just listen. Be understanding and considerate of how he feels. It's his relationship, not yours. You just there to help him when he needs it.

Don't hold mistakes against him, let let be a learning experience for him and help him understand what he has done is wrong, and help him set barriers. Don't demand them, but give him options, and allow him to make the better choice on his own. If you always make his decisions for him, and he never messes up as a kid, when he gets older, he wont know what to do and not to do because he has always had things handed to him.

One of the signs of being a good parent is worrying if your a good parent or not.

Thanks

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by Dordrecht

If he's not a christian, he need to come to Christ, needs to be born again.
Only Christ can guide him. Without Christ things will not go the right way.
That might sound unrealistic but it's the bottom line.

Pray for him, his name is Travis.

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by MissBrattified

Our girls are now 18 and 16, and they've been allowed to date since they were 16. The rule is that they have to group date or have a chaperone until they're 18, but privately, the chaperone rule is really there until we get to know the guy and decide whether or not they can be trusted. It gives us the freedom to insist on a chaperone or let them go on their own and be the heroes.

I'm not a big fan of dating any younger than that, because I think dating is technically what you do to find a husband or wife, and that doesn't need to be done before you're really ready to be in a serious relationship.

Talk to your son about being courteous and respectful. He should open doors, pull out chairs, pay for meals and entertainment, etc. More importantly, talk to him about how to keep his sexuality in check when he's with an attractive young woman. It's his job to be a gentleman and treat his girlfriend how he would like his mother or sister to be treated. Even if he doesn't want to talk about it, talk anyway. Send him out on his date equipped with more information than he could ever use.

Good points. I have explained what purpose of dating really is.

What are your thoughts on other person not in church or the truth?

[Dordrecht]

Originally Posted by BrotherEastman

I was just pulling your leg, sheeeeeesh why so serious?

…sure…..……Lol

[Dordrecht]

Originally Posted by Truthseeker

Pray for him, his name is Travis.

Will do!

[Dordrecht]

Originally Posted by Truthseeker

Yes, what does it have to do with the thread?

Well….I would think it's important to know if the parents are Christians or not.
Normal question.

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by Dordrecht

Well….I would think it's important to know if the parents are Christians or not.
Normal question.

Gotcha

[Pliny]

Originally Posted by BrotherEastman

I was just pulling your leg, sheeeeeesh why so serious?

Please accept my apologies then. Much of what I stand for is ridiculed on this forum. I assumed, incorrectly, that this was more of the same. My apologies...