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Old 09-15-2007, 09:26 PM
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I understand what you're saying here and was expecting this point to be made eventually if it wasn't already earlier on. Perhaps it was and I missed it.

Still though ..... the mandate was issued in Genesis and the mandate and the principle of it is seen through both Old and New Testaments from Genesis to Revelation.

And that's the truth. Maybe hard to swallow sometimes because abuse happens. We've ALL seen it and know it's true.

But doesn't change the Scripture.
Absolutely. It is like that scripture that tells children to honor their mother and father. It doesn't say if they are worthy of honor in your eyes or not, but it says to do so that you may have a long life on this earth.

Just because one party does not do things God's way does not justify another's behaviors. Thank God there are more men who love and respect their wives than those who abuse and manipulate their wives.

I will have to say...I was NEVER abused in any way by my former husband. The only accusation I hold against him is not being man enough to defend his wife and family from the harsh treatment of others. Then again, we were both young and ignorant of the devil's devices and hopefully God will get the glory when it is all said and done.

To repeat what I think you have said: Just because a man or a woman does not abide by God's rules of hiearchy and authority does not justify or excuse the other's behaviors.
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Old 09-15-2007, 09:27 PM
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As have we all. But it pales in comparison to our brothers and sisters elsewhere. We are fat with the blessings of God.
That doesn't mean we should minimize real problems.
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Old 09-15-2007, 09:28 PM
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That doesn't mean we should minimize real problems.
What's a real problem that is minimized?
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Old 09-15-2007, 09:29 PM
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Here is an online definition of persecute:

per·se·cute (pûrs-kyt)
tr.v. per·se·cut·ed, per·se·cut·ing, per·se·cutes
1. To oppress or harass with ill-treatment, especially because of race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, or beliefs.
2. To annoy persistently; bother.
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Are we going to parse the word persecution? ... or address the original thread? .... albeit the title is troublesome to some.
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Old 09-15-2007, 09:31 PM
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The initial post of this thread is what caught my attention and why I decided to respond.

I would like to know how women are being "persecuted" in the church today as I know it, have lived it, have experienced it and have pastored it --- "it" referring to the church.

Because a woman has been told she can't wear red or a hair bow or jewelry or makeup ..... this is supposed to constitute "persecution"? What a laugh!!

I know women and men today who are being persecuted for their faith in real terms. They're thrown into jails and prisons, suffer beatings, repeated raping, starvation and even death because of their faith. This is what I think of when I think of "persecution". I certainly never considered my pastor teaching me that I shouldn't cut my hair or wear shorts or pants as "persecution". I wouldn't consider the fact that woman isn't accepted for "ordination" as persecution either.

The fact is ....... God has set certain things in order. One of those things is order in regards to headship, and it was God Himself who established in the very beginning that the order is ....

God

Man

Woman

I didn't set it up. Neither did Adam. God did. And the principles of headship and order are seen throughout scripture from Genesis to Revelation.

Does this mean that women can't lead? No. Because we see example in scripture of women leading but always under God and under man.

I have no problem overall with male authority. I prefer male leadership. Does every man lead perfectly? No. Are there men who take advantage? Definitely. Are there poor male role models and is there poor male leadership? Absolutely.

But this was God's plan from the beginning - male authority and headship. Just because men violate their role and take advantage doesn't negate God's commands or His plan. We need to stick with the principles that have been established in God's Word when it comes to this issue and all others too, of course.

And in my own personal experience overall, the male leadership I've had in my own life personally -- and in the church too -- has been positive, affirming, encouraging, assuring and as God mandated it to be.

First of all the original thread said nothing about your personal experiences. "As you know it" is not relevant to the discussion. To be Christlike, we must be empathetic and respond to need even if that pain is not part of our personal experiences. And "it" isn't referring to the first UPC.

As the body of Christ we are to help those who cannot help themselves. To do that we must be whole.

With regard to the "red bow" or "split skirts", any suggestion by any man to a woman regarding her clothing other than by her husband is crossing her boundaries. A man has no right to tell another woman what to wear. Even if its a pastor; if a woman is wearing something offensive or revealing, the pastor should speak to her husband first alone, so as not to offend or embarrass her.

She should not be made a specticle of publically or privately!!!

Too many pastors, husbands, fathers, etc. have been emotional vampires sucking the emotional health away from their wives, daughters, congregants, etc. so they can feel good about themselves and their minsitries. This is a sin and constitutes emotional and spiritual abuse.

I'm glad you have been excluded from this, but this does not negate your responsibility to make sure it doesnt' happen to anyone.

He that knoweth to do good and doeth it not, to him it is sin.

A healthy church is a church that regards women equal with men and protects all alike including children.

With regard to male authority, we are to love our wives as Christ loves the church. That means dying to her and giving our lives for her. Placing her first in all things.
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Here is an online definition of persecute:

per·se·cute (pûrs-kyt)
tr.v. per·se·cut·ed, per·se·cut·ing, per·se·cutes
1. To oppress or harass with ill-treatment, especially because of race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, or beliefs.
2. To annoy persistently; bother.
If this is a valid definition ... then the word is in play.
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Old 09-15-2007, 09:32 PM
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Abuse and dominance is one thing.

Persecution is another.

I have never been persecuted.
Renda,
I do feel as if I was persecuted on two extremes; 1) I was persecuted in secular college for my views on homosexuality to the point that they tried to keep me out of the Social Work profession. Had I not been an honor student they could have stopped me from admittance to the Social Work program. 2) I feel that the church persecuted me for attaining a secular education and made it a point in every service to talk about how God uses the weak and ignorant and not the learned and educated.

So, I might not have been killed literally but many times the devil has used the world and the church to discourage me through persecution.

This is my opinion.

Rhonda
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Old 09-15-2007, 09:32 PM
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If this is a valid definition ... then the word is in play.
That is the dictionary definition but not the way we normally think of persecution. Don't you think?
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Old 09-15-2007, 09:33 PM
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At least modern day women are no longer required to keep silent in the church. I suppose that was persecution back in Paul's day....oh wait persecution to Paul was a bit more harsh.....like being beaten, stoned, left for dead, thrown in prison..........of course having to wear a bee-hive hair-do and a dress is pretty close......
You obviously haven't done that too often or you'd understand what's being talked about here!!!! LOL!
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