A Word of Caution to all AFF Posters

[stmatthew]

Originally Posted by Pastor Poster

I have not named that person, nor will I EVER name them.

But Matt, I think the underlying issue needs to be discussed. BTW, I think this thread has been very, very civil.

That is because we deleted NLYP's post.

No, as long as it is civil, I see no reason to close it. The subject discussed is well worth discussing. It is only the particular instant that needs to be left alone.

[Lost]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

PP,
I'm not saying that you are doing any "lynching". I'm just saying that there are many threads and topics started as though the UPC was just a big hole of mud, IMO.

All I'm saying is that not every person sits in the mud and when any topic is looked at as an "overview" - it's going to make people angry. It just stands to reason.

PO, perhaps some people complain about the very mud that they willingly sit in.

Just a possibility.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Felicity

Lots of things that are said on these boards may make people uncomfortable and even upset or angry by times. But how do we act and react to that? Does it give a person the right to "go off" on someone else and threaten them?

Why would anyone want to "out" someone else?

Check your spirit folks. One wrong (if there's a wrong) doesn't justify another.

I think if they find out someone lied about them, they might do it.

[Felicity]

Originally Posted by stmatthew

Bro,

We really should let this alone.

The PM was dealt with immediately. The person apologized for their bad judgment, and hopefully you have forgiven them.

And hopefully the person who apologized has let it go and won't be threatening Pastor P the next corner he rounds.

Some of these so called apologies aren't. Simple as that. Because if something's been apologized for and the person has been forgiven that should be the end of it. It shouldn't be cropping up again with more threat of exposure or retaliation or getting even or making a person look or feel as if they're justified in the eyes of others.

Hello.

[stmatthew]

Originally Posted by Felicity

Lots of things that are said on these boards may make people uncomfortable and even upset or angry by times. But how do we act and react to that? Does it give a person the right to "go off" on someone else and threaten them?

Why would anyone want to "out" someone else?

Check your spirit folks. One wrong (if there's a wrong) doesn't justify another.

Felicity,

I agree completely. But the culprit apologized for his "spur of the moment" PM. He understood after the wrong, and sought to apologize and make it right. I hope he learned his lesson. Should we not let it go and move on?

[Felicity]

Originally Posted by Lost

PO, perhaps some people complain about the very mud that they willingly sit in.

Just a possibility.

True. Most people do and then they complain because someone else does.

Human nature is pretty quixotic really.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Lost

PO, perhaps some people complain about the very mud that they willingly sit in.

Just a possibility.

That can be true. I think I've done that. All I'm saying is that some people are going to be offended by the words of others accusing them of sitting in the mud.

And like I said, when you are in a Board or business meeting, you are not going to spew out everything on your mind. You have to listen and find ways of putting out your point, in the best way for reception.

You have to temper the blow or ears will shut. That's just part of communication.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Pastor Poster

Wow, I am surprised that you feel this is warranted.

PO, I am a nobody and I know it.

I always hate to ever hear anyone say this. I know what you are saying, but don't say it.

Everyone is someone to God!!!!

[Barb]

Okay...having only read the beginning of this thread and the end, I am at a loss as to what is truly going on...

I will just take the opening post at face value and say that it is excellent advice.

For how long have some us been speaking about how to speak and deal with one another on this board?!

I question the reasoning and spirit of someone who wants to 'out' anyone here, in particular a pastor. I do recall some time ago when a poster whom I have met was in fear of being 'outed' by others here, and to her is was frightening.

For heaven's sake, that is the whole purpose of user names...I am amazed at this...

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by stmatthew

Felicity,

I agree completely. But the culprit apologized for his "spur of the moment" PM. He understood after the wrong, and sought to apologize and make it right. I hope he learned his lesson. Should we not let it go and move on?

Monday morning quarterbacking on Sunday.