Who Decides What is a Rebellious Act...or Not?

Originally Posted by originalsecretplace

In our church we were never taught that we couldn't trim our hair. It was not a subject that was preached on ever, really. We were taght in Bible studies that a woman should have long hair. People had differeing opinions on the subject of trimming. I always did trim my hair. We have many black women in our church (one being my DIL) who perm, trim and put alot of prducts in their haier to keep it managable.

I have a friend who listened to some tapes by a well known preacher who preached on women's standards. She decided when listening to these tapes that she would no longer trim her hair. After she made that decision she started to feel a feeling of bondage. It got worse and she studied scripture and then she decided to trim her hair again. She said the bondage was removed immediately. She felt God was telling her that this teaching was one of bondage and biblically incorrect.

I have to tell you- I detest that term. Whenever I hear folk tout 'bondage' due to dress preferences set by their pastor- I cringe. I do not feel that I in bondage- not in the least, by ANY of the standards that I keep.

It's difficult to dicipher my feelings right now. When you have been taught something is wrong and salvational allllll of your life, and then, over time you see some of the same men that were against it, discount it because someone gets 'headaches' and such...it makes me leery if it ever was salvic to begin with. I have honored the wishes of my parents and my pastors, in regards to the uncut hair doctrine. Where I am struggling is, the reality of the ones I love being lost because they have chosen to cut theirs. It breaks my heart to think of anyone being lost for eternity, and I just want ASSURANCE from God that all is well. I'm not getting it in prayer, and I am sad beyond words.

Has anyone else been in this situation before that can maybe PM me with some encouragement in this situation??? I am sincerely NOT pointing fingers at anyone. Like I said- I have friends who have cut hair, and I don't think twice about it- but, this is my child- and I am confused, and sad. ANd I have to wonder WHY the difference? Why am I not sad for my friends?

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