For those who want to know...RULES at my church!

Originally Posted by Sarge

However, some do get mad at God. People process what's happened in different ways. Those who feel this way need to realize that God is not the one that harmed them.

This is where there are some who have great difficulty. Some blame God, some cannot fully separate the false version of God they received from who God really is, and some walk away entirely from Christianity (though some also return to God). Unfortunately, what sometimes happens is that in the process of being involved in an unhealthy church, the person becomes wrapped up in the system and messes up their relationship with God and things get really distorted. And sometimes if one is raised in an unhealthy church and that is all they ever knew, they may not even have ever developed a real relationship with God.

I believe it was Michlow that mentioned she may not have walked away from God, but rather the twisted version of God that developed in her mind.

Here is where the most harm from spiritual abuse comes in- is if the person does not ever go forward to developing a genuine relationship with God. When an unhealthy church produces such as this, it is very, very sad. The place where people should be able to come to learn about God and develop a personal walk with Him instead can produce people who reject Him.

I do realize everyone has their own experience, I was just being thankful that I didn't ......it breaks my heart that some never make it back...those are the ones that someone is going to have to answer for...they will be accountable one day...I appreciate so much your input and wisdom in this area...you have done so much for so many...