To tell or not to tell an adopted child

Originally Posted by Margies3

Sis TS, you've hit on a very important point!!!

I've told both of our boys several times over the years that one of the things that has convinced me that their birth mothers are loving women who cared about their babies is the fact that they did not choose abortion. Both could have done that. But they didn't. They made the much harder decision to give birth to their baby and then allow someone else to be their parents.

Our oldest son's birth mother had been pregnant 7 times by the time our son was 6 years old. He was her firstborn. She lost him at 3 months, got him back at 8 months and lost him again at 9 months. She finally had her parental rights severed at 3 years of age. She had a daughter by the time Justin was 1 year old. Then the day before she lost parental rights for him, she had an abortion. She then gave birth to two more boys (who she kept), then she lost a baby boy (at 5 months in her pregnancy) and finally gave birth to a baby girl who she gave up for adoption before she was even born.

This was a confused, messed up young lady who had had a very rough time growing up. No, I don't agree with anything she did. But I don't see her as an ogre or a devil child. I see her as a young lady in tremendous need of someone to love and guide her and most of all, in need of a Savior.

And I am sooooooooooo thankful that the child she gave birth to will not need to follow that same pattern that she was following. The cycle can be stopped NOW. And who knows, maybe one day Justin will be the one who leads his birth mother to the Lord.

That would be wonderful!