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Originally Posted by Jesuswins
Unfortunately, she's usually with me all the time (choir practice, Praise Team practice, church meetings) she rarely misbehaves in front of people, especially not on the scale that she does in private, it's not necessarily tantrums either. It's mostly wining/pouting (which gets under my skin), she is good at negotiating with me, and that's my fault for giving in.
But something has got to change and it might be a culture shock for both of us. Because tonight we are going to have a major reconstruction of rules and consequences.
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Do you have a reward system with her for anything she does currently? If not that could be one place to start. It doesnt have to be big.. at that age a simple piece of candy or a toy from the dollar tree may work.. there are many sites you can print free reward charts from. I started this with my youngest nephew not too long ago as he was having problems with homework. He is 8 but it worked like a dream! He gets it done so fast and is so excited about the rewards.
I know this wont fix the problem but sometimes it does help a little to know they are working for something. Oh and this is something else i tried. My son when he was younger (well 2 actually) could cuss any sailor under the table. It was what he grew up with. And so we worked on this so hard. He wouldnt do it normally around others but always to me after his dad was out of the picture. So we started allowances at that age.. for one reason! To learn a major lesson. He got 5 dollars a week... all in quarters... and he held onto it in a plastic bag in the kitchen.. and beside it was a jar.. the bad word jar and every time he said a bad word. I got 2 quarters... he was so excited about having the money that when it all went bye bye in a day the first week he had to do a real fast rethink... in 2 weeks he had totally quit cursing and hasnt to this day since! Might work.. every time she throws a fit or whines.. gets money taken away... if she doesnt lose any give her an extra dollar as a reward???
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