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Originally Posted by BrotherEastman
Once again no one is denying the harmful affects of abuse, but WE ultimately decide wether or not we will allow the abuse to change our relationship with God.
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And we also have the opportunity to decide whether we will remain in an abusive situation or not. Most of the time, when someone leaves an abusive situation it's because they didn't "get over it", are "bitter", filled with "anger", and a whole host of buzzwords that the abusers wish to use to bring the "rebellious" back under submission.
I chose to leave several abusive situations. It isn't from anger, or bitterness, or because I didn't get over it -- it is because I chose to separate my wife and children from the active abuse that was prevalent in these situations. I am the provider in my family -- and part of that provision is to protect my family from power posturing pastors and saints alike. I will not have my wife and children sacrificed on the alter of self-righteousness pontification, power hungry saints (which include ministers), and ignorant intellect that requires and excuses abuse in any and all manners. And I will proclaim warnings for all outside of my family about abusers so that they don't find themselves in the same abusive situation that God delivered me from.
In the end, though, I see the abuse that happened in my life as a good thing. It was the catalyst for my having a relationship with God that has been renewed and I am growing daily. I'm not perfect nor have perfect theology but I am seeking the face of God -- no matter where that leads. I am thankful that I went through what I went through and that he created me the way he created me -- God truly took that which was ashes and made beauty out of it.
That said, here is a disclaimer: I do not believe that all saints and all pastors fit this bill -- there are more out there than is willing to be realized by some.
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