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Kinds of Critics
THE "HONEST" CRITIC
This is the person who considers it her divine right — and duty — to speak the truth at all costs. ("That new dress makes you look a little hippy."...
And you're not supposed to be offended because, hey, she's just being honest — and isn't honesty a virtue? Not necessarily. "A friend's mother was diagnosed with breast cancer, and one of my other friends said to me and some mutual friends that the woman got it because she wasn't a healthy eater," recalls Rhett Pruitt, 35, of Mountain Rest, SC. "I was so angry"....
This type of person is self-centered, says Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., author of It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction. "She says the first thing that pops into her mind — just like a 2-year-old — with no regard for hurt feelings or consequences." Or she's provocative just for effect, hoping to cause a stir by dropping verbal bombs no one else would dream of saying.
But here's the rub: Telling this walking sledgehammer that her harsh words hurt your or anyone else's feelings may play right into her need to be the brave truth teller, thus stoking an already inflamed ego.
"This person craves attention and drama. She can't get it if you don't take the bait."
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