Is it okay to hug your Pastor?

[Cindy]

Is it okay to hug your Pastor? Please give pros and cons.

[Amanah]

If you have know your Pastor awhile and feel that you have that sort of relationship with him/her then yes. If you have any inkling that it would make your Pastor or their spouse uncomfortable, then no.

[Titus2woman]

I used to be Baptist. Everybody hugged everybody at church. Then I became OP and no hugs were ever given across gender lines except to very young boys. Not sure where I even learned that... it just...WAS.

Funnily there was a LOT more adultery in my former UPC church then there ever was in my former Baptist church... So if the reason for the no hugs policy was/is to avoid lust... well... it's not working!

I am now a hugger again... and when I see folks from my old church I hug them... girls, boys, women and men! If someone is offended they just have to write me off as a doty old lady And next time maybe they won't stand so close

So my answer is YES I would hug my pastor.

[shag]

I don't hug anyone of the opposite sex, unless they are very closely related to me, but that is just my preference. Only exceptions really, are a very few number of "little ol ladies" that I've known my entire life. But that's just me, and I don't expect everyone else to be that way...

[AreYouReady?]

The way I see it, when one has to have a "rule" either spoken or unspoken not to touch another human being, then that rule seems to be made because the ones making it cannot contain themselves and they project it onto others.

If everybody would just be honest with themselves about their relationship with God, we wouldn't have to have so many stupid rules in our churches.

[navygoat1998]

Only if he showers

[AreYouReady?]

Originally Posted by navygoat1998

Only if he showers

Heh! A good way to keep people from hugging ya. Just don't shower after working in the yard the day before.

[RandyWayne]

There doesn't need to be a "no hug!" rule BUT having said that, I am personally not a hugger. Unless it is my wife, I tend to recoil from the touch of any other human being.

[Baron1710]

Originally Posted by RandyWayne

There doesn't need to be a "no hug!" rule BUT having said that, I am personally not a hugger. Unless it is my wife, I tend to recoil from the touch of any other human being.

I get that some people are huggerrs, I hate when people just assume it is ok to hug me. I agree we don't need a no hug rule, just a don't hug ME rule.

[Titus2woman]

Hugs Are Good For Your Health
By Jandi Theis R.N.

I think we all would agree that nutrition and exercise are important to living a healthy and productive life. Today, I’m going to talk about something else that might surprise you, but some say could be just as important as nutrition and exercise.

When was the last time you gave or received a hug? It turns out that hugs just may be the secret ingredient to a better, more productive, healthier life.

Hugs have been on my mind a lot the last couple of days. It’s been almost 12 weeks since I’ve seen my husband and as I write this, he is on his way home! There are many things I miss when he is gone, and even though neither one of us are touchy-feely type of people, I’m always waiting most for that first hug when he walks in the door.

Think about the last time someone gave you a hug… it didn't even have be from a significant other. Maybe it was a friend or your parent or a child, maybe even a stranger… often times when I’m discharging a patient from the hospital, they will give me a hug and say thank you. Sometimes those hugs make my day! No matter who the hugs come from, they always make me feel good.

Well, it turns out that it’s not just me. Hugs are good for your health! There are several studies showing that hugs reduces stress, slow breathing and heart rate, and lower blood pressure, which reduces the risk of heart disease. Hugs have also been shown to ease tension, improve moods, and release fear.

Studies have shown that when we hug, we increase the level of the hormone oxytocin in our blood. Oxytocin is known as the “bonding hormone” because when it is released, it causes a “bonding” or “caring” response in people. A daily dose of oxytocin from hugging can help prevent heart disease because as the oxytocin levels in our blood increase, our blood pressure drops. About one in three adults in the U.S. has high blood pressure, which is one of the main risk factors for heart disease, so just think of all the positive benefits that could come from sharing hugs every day!

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD is quoted as saying "Hugging is all natural; it is organic, naturally sweet, no pesticides, non-fattening, no carbohydrates, no preservatives, no artificial or genetically engineered ingredients, and 100% wholesome."

Several sources suggest that everyone needs at least four hugs a day for healthy survival, eight hugs a day for emotional strength, and 12 hugs a day to really grow and be empowered. That might sound like a lot of hugging to you, so maybe you just need to start by giving your husband, wife, or special someone a hug at least once a day. And don’t forget to give your kids (the big ones and the little ones) hugs… we all need and benefit from hugs, no matter what our age.

One thing to remember is that in order to benefit from hugs, they need to be open and sincere. Some people don’t like to be touched, so before you hug a complete stranger or someone who you know likes their personal space, ask them if it would be ok if you give them a hug. As you go about your day, think about someone who might feel better if they got a hug from you today. And remember, not only will they feel better but you will to.

I’m thankful that when my husband is away from home, I have other family and friends around to give me a hug once in awhile. I have a friend who gives the best hugs ever… she wraps her arms around and holds on tight. If you live alone and feel like you don’t have anyone to hug, then join a group or club (maybe a ladies group at your church or sport team) or volunteer with senior citizens or children. Any time that you are meeting and greeting people or saying goodbye is an opportunity for you to give a hug.

I think the following saying says it all, so I thought I’d share it with you:

"Hugs are not only nice, they are needed. Hugs can help relieve pain and depression, make the healthy healthier, the happy happier, and the most secure among us even more so.

Hugging feels good, overcomes fears, eases tension, provides stretching exercises if you are tall. Hugging also does not upset the environment, saves heat, is portable, requires no special equipment, makes happy days happier and impossible days possible."

I totally agree with everything that author says about hugs. When I close my eyes and think real hard, I can almost feel the stress melt away when I get a hug from my husband… it’s like a big sigh. And I am so excited that in less than two hours he will be walking through the door and I won’t have to dream about it anymore… I can’t wait for that first hug!

What are you waiting for? Hugs are good for your health… Go hug someone!