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Old 05-02-2012, 03:49 PM
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And that would also be wrong. There is a proper way to handle instruction when it's needed.
Why should anybody need instruction for coming to church wearing a polo shirt and jeans?
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Old 05-02-2012, 03:53 PM
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Why should anybody need instruction for coming to church wearing a polo shirt and jeans?
Your taking my comment out of context. I typed that in response to someone saying something about coming to church wearing a gold ring.....

And in regards to polo shirt and jeans, never said anything about it. I commented on a t shirt and jeans... but you can't just take one or two sentences, but the body of all my comments of this thread to get my full jest on the topic.

I commented in the very beginning about what is appropriate based on the culture of that particular congregation, and the motives behind why the person is dressed the way they are... and if correction is needed for some reason, the way to handle it is according to Matthew 18... not from the pulpit initially.
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Not me... now, if he does that to do the surgery, fine... want him comfortable. But the first time we meet is going to be during a consult. If he were to walk in with flip flops on, and some cargo shorts... I'll be gathering my things and asking for a new referral to another doctor...

and I've actually done that. I had just moved to the Charlotte area and was needing a new Internal Med doc. I had been sent to this guy that was highly recommended. He came in with shorts on, flip flops, and hadn't shaved in a couple of days. I told him, I'm sorry, this just isn't going to work. I'm sure your very capable, but we're just not going to be compatible for a doctor/patient relationship... and I found another doc.
Well, as Michael has mentioned, because you were raised this way doesn't mean it even crosses other's minds.

They might see you as a wound-up tight (fill in any word) type person and feel like you have control issues and not trust you.
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Very true, but I'm the customer, therefore, for where my money gets spent... I get to set the rules, .
You are 100% correct. You can set the rules where you spend your dough!

I'd just hate to lose out on some potentially great friendships, professional expertise, etc. because I judged the book by its cover.

But, that's just me! I have the same right you do, thankfully!
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Because no one in the thread is condoning making someone feel uncomfortable about the type of clothing they wear to church. Everyone, unless I've missed it, has agreed that would be wrong.

And since you didn't quote the original post in your reponse, it looked like you were interjecting to the current trend of discussion the thread had taken, and that somehow you were chiding the surrounding posts, and not responding to the original post/topic at hand.

Just misunderstood where you were pointing your artillery... no harm no foul.
Sorry you felt that way. From the responses, it looks like nobody took my scripture quote as "chiding" anybody's post.

Sometimes I come across as contentious...not meaning to be.
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Old 05-02-2012, 03:58 PM
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Your taking my comment out of context. I typed that in response to someone saying something about coming to church wearing a gold ring.....

And in regards to polo shirt and jeans, never said anything about it. I commented on a t shirt and jeans... but you can't just take one or two sentences, but the body of all my comments of this thread to get my full jest on the topic.

I commented in the very beginning about what is appropriate based on the culture of that particular congregation, and the motives behind why the person is dressed the way they are... and if correction is needed for some reason, the way to handle it is according to Matthew 18... not from the pulpit initially.
How is asking this question "taking your post out of context"? Just wanted your take on it....not criticizing. I feel sorry that you are so defensive.

Forgive me...for responding to you.
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Old 05-02-2012, 03:59 PM
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Well, as Michael has mentioned, because you were raised this way doesn't mean it even crosses other's minds.

They might see you as a wound-up tight (fill in any word) type person and feel like you have control issues and not trust you.
Oh I absolutely agree I'm wound up tight... I am a pretty straight laced, proper etiquette, do the appropriate thing, up tight kind of guy. That's how I'm happy. LOL. I love protocol, structure, admin, etc....

And that's more than fine if they don't trust me and feel like I have control issues.... that's the beauty of free will and choice... and I'm thankful for it on my behalf and theirs.
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Old 05-02-2012, 04:00 PM
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You are 100% correct. You can set the rules where you spend your dough!

I'd just hate to lose out on some potentially great friendships, professional expertise, etc. because I judged the book by its cover.

But, that's just me! I have the same right you do, thankfully!
Absolutely!
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Oh I absolutely agree I'm wound up tight... I am a pretty straight laced, proper etiquette, do the appropriate thing, up tight kind of guy. That's how I'm happy. LOL. I love protocol, structure, admin, etc....

And that's more than fine if they don't trust me and feel like I have control issues.... that's the beauty of free will and choice... and I'm thankful for it on my behalf and theirs.
Yes, it is a good thing!
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Re: Wearing a Suit and a Tie

Geeez! This thread amazes me and brings into question more then one sacred cow that we in the west have! I could go so many directions with this, but first let me say that I do believe in looking your best during times of worship at the local assembly etc., that being whatever "your" best may happen to be.

Having said that, this still goes back to a cultural and traditional issue and not bible at all, as far as the suit and tie / dressy dress goes. What i find ironic in small town America is that many Blue collar workers work Swing Shift and maybe get 2-Sundays a month off...so there goes the Sacred "Your off work so dress up" Sunday ritual for some.

I just can't help but wonder why a cloth necklace and cuff links are necessary to show respect to God, much less each other in a worship setting..if anything it has the potential for exposing pride and ego.

Don't get me wrong I have a closet full of dress clothes and suits I wear to church, but to me this is another circular argument that can de-rail the real commission, which has nothing to do with how good you look. Modesty I understand, the other...not so much..
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