Why do I feel jealous?

[Socialite]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

Perhaps, you are more envious than jealous. Jealousy can destroy a relationship, so let God work on that if you truly are jealous.

I agree with the ideas that have already been posted - it's the little things that count.

Great advice, RG. And the bolded is what I suspected too.

[Socialite]

Jealousy isn't always wrong. I mean, God is jealous for us. The word El Qana is used to convey the meaning of God's jealousy. It's a deep, I'll-do-anything-for-you love that seeks to protect communion and relationship. That form of jealousy is a thing of love almost. When the jealousy becomes irrational, connected to insecurity (Ferd's note) and something of the heart and character, that's something different.

[Digging4Truth]

Rather than discuss with you why you are jealous and how to fix it... I say use it.

Use this feeling to keep you motivated to do the little things that make such a difference. Of course Miss Brattified has already started that ball rolling with her great post.

But the bottom line is this. Don't let it get you down. Let it push you forward. You don't want to bombard them constantly with things such as MB suggested but you do want to take the time to be a part of the family in every way that you can.

They say it takes 30 days to form a habit. If this is the way you operate for 10 months then maybe you will form a firm enough habit of showing your feelings that you won't be one of those guys who forgets how to do that after you get married.

I teach my son... keep the fire alive. It isn't hard to keep it alive but it is hard to revive once you let it slip away.

And sometimes it pays to count your blessings.

You have in laws that you WANT to be around. That isn't the case for everyone.

Will she be moving to where you are when you get married?

[RandyWayne]

Originally Posted by tonySIX00

I have a dilemma.

I am engaged to the most amazing girl in the world. I will be getting married in 10 months. We have been engaged for 4 months.

It's a long distance relationship.

OK, well I fly from San Antonio to El Paso every 3 weeks, but now we have decided to push it back to every 6 weeks to save for the wedding.

Well you guys won't imagine at what I'm jealous about. It is something so petty that its embarrassing to even explain, but I cant help to get these feelings. SO i figured I would ask.

My Fiance's little sister recently got a boyfriend, and so he has been spending more time at my fiance's house, Ex. Dinner, coffee, lounging and talking.... and I get Jealous of 2 things...

1. The fact that the little sister gets to spend more time with her Boyfriend than we do.

2. That my fiance's mom will grow more attached to him than to me because he will eventually spend more time there than I do...

so it really bugs me when i hear that he is over- I DONT KNOW WHY! I wish I could be ok with it!

I don't know why this bugs me. I don't even know if this is normal. any advice anyone?

....OR, you could have a cheaper wedding and get married now!

A simple slideshow of our wedding. And it was NOT a cheap "married by Elvis through the drive through" kind.

[tonySIX00]

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

Will she be moving to where you are when you get married?

Yes, she will be moving 550mi. Away from home.

Although she did live here for 4.5 years while obtaining her degree at UT in Austin... she moved back home, I proposed, so now she is moving back here in 10 months.

BTW... I really want to thank everyone for their advice... I am learning a lot... also that it may be more of an envy than a jealousy.