Living Arrangements

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Great advice and, again, you have been a great sport on this thread, Rhoni!

I will have to say, with all due respect, I don't think we really need a counselor for us to reach the conclusion that we need boundaries. The Word of God bears that out very clearly.

AMEN, but because of individual life situations, and transgenerational issues in families, often times boundaries get blurred. Some people don't read the word because they can't or their reading comprehension isn't up to par. Some people learn better by doing or having someone model or tell them. It just depends on how you learn best. Of course, you know I am a proverbial bookworm

Blessings PO,
Rhoni

[ILG]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

A good counselor will tell you to pray about your boundaries and study the word, and then you will know for yourself what is good and acceptable behavior.

But PO wants it spelled out!

So why exactly were you wanting this spelled out PO???

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

AMEN, but because of individual life situations, and transgenerational issues in families, often times boundaries get blurred. Some people don't read the word because they can't or their reading comprehension isn't up to par. Some people learn better by doing or having someone model or tell them. It just depends on how you learn best. Of course, you know I am a proverbial bookworm

Blessings PO,
Rhoni

I think I can agree with what you are saying!

Blessings to you also, Rhoni!!

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by ILG

But PO wants it spelled out!

So why exactly were you wanting this spelled out PO???

'Cause I have low reading comprehension....

I WANT TO KNOW WANT TOUCHING ENTAILS?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When I was a little girl, I would grab the legs of my shorts and panties, pull them up to my waist and stomp my feet! Now, that's a tantrum!!!

[tbpew]

Originally Posted by ILG

But PO wants it spelled out!

So why exactly were you wanting this spelled out PO???

ILG, how would this discussion topic be handled if we did a "my child" comparability test?

If we would counsel our children to avoid a circumstance or behavior, then it seems likely we would NOT 'AMEN' that same lifestyle choice made by our adult brothers and sisters in Christ.

Providing space for the tempter to exploit our natural appetites is foolish.

Adults with even a minimum of life experience understand the difference between fastiing while walking in a park verse fasting while walking through a bakery.

Warning: hugely obvious statement to follow:
Persons who are not married should avoid circumstances that would cause their appetite for intimacy to be increased.

Unmarried persons who purpose to hug or press their bodies together on a couch, would be opening up an occassion where sin and condemnation could enter in.

Being an unmarried "couch lover" is walking a dangerous tighrope...but maybe it's the excitement that some of folks are really after?

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by tbpew

ILG, how would this discussion topic be handled if we did a "my child" comparability test?

If we would counsel our children to avoid a circumstance or behavior, then it seems likely we would NOT 'AMEN' that same lifestyle choice made by our adult brothers and sisters in Christ.

Providing space for the tempter to exploit our natural appetites is foolish.

Adults with even a minimum of life experience understand the difference between fastiing while walking in a park verse fasting while walking through a bakery.

Warning: hugely obvious statement to follow:
Persons who are not married should avoid circumstances that would cause their appetite for intimacy to be increased.

Unmarried persons who purpose to hug or press their bodies together on a couch, would be opening up an occassion where sin and condemnation could enter in.

Being an unmarried "couch lover" is walking a dangerous tighrope...but maybe it's the excitement that some of folks are really after?

Good post, tbpew!!!! Excellent!!

And you are right - being an unmarried "couch lover" is walking a dangerous tightrope!!!

'Cause if I'm interested and he's interested and he touches me - I'm going to climb his frame like a monkey in a tree! That's just downright, homestyle, plain as the nose on your face talkin'!!!!!! I did not need a counselor to figure that thang out!!!

OOps, did I digress?

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Good post, tbpew!!!! Excellent!!

And you are right - being an unmarried "couch lover" is walking a dangerous tightrope!!!

'Cause if I'm interested and he's interested and he touches me - I'm going to climb his frame like a monkey in a tree! That's just downright, homestyle, plain as the nose on your face talkin'!!!!!! I did not need a counselor to figure that thang out!!!

OOps, did I digress?

Calm down monkey!

[ILG]

Originally Posted by tbpew

ILG, how would this discussion topic be handled if we did a "my child" comparability test?

If we would counsel our children to avoid a circumstance or behavior, then it seems likely we would NOT 'AMEN' that same lifestyle choice made by our adult brothers and sisters in Christ.

Providing space for the tempter to exploit our natural appetites is foolish.

Adults with even a minimum of life experience understand the difference between fastiing while walking in a park verse fasting while walking through a bakery.

Warning: hugely obvious statement to follow:
Persons who are not married should avoid circumstances that would cause their appetite for intimacy to be increased.

Unmarried persons who purpose to hug or press their bodies together on a couch, would be opening up an occassion where sin and condemnation could enter in.

Being an unmarried "couch lover" is walking a dangerous tighrope...but maybe it's the excitement that some of folks are really after?

The excitement in the thread or on the couch?

As a female, cuddling on a couch during a movie is not going to make me want to get intimate to the point of no return. However, a male is different I suppose. I was taking Rhoni's statement in context. She is a female, who would enjoy "cuddling" on a couch with a man watching a movie and I took it to mean that and nothing more. As a male your perspective would be different, no doubt.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by ILG

The excitement in the thread or on the couch?

As a female, cuddling on a couch during a movie is not going to make me want to get intimate to the point of no return. However, a male is different I suppose. I was taking Rhoni's statement in context. She is a female, who would enjoy "cuddling" on a couch with a man watching a movie and I took it to mean that and nothing more. As a male your perspective would be different, no doubt.

Cuddling with a lover is the correct terminology.

Also, you proved the point - if men are different - - that's who she would be cuddling with.

[ILG]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

Cuddling with a lover is the correct terminology.

Also, you proved the point - if men are different - - that's who she would be cuddling with.

Sure, she would. But, frankly, I don't personally know how much would be too much in a dating context. Maybe she doesn't either. M aybe it depends on the guy. I don't know. She was stating her desire.