I know this is common but..

[giftofgrace]

I feel like such an alien at work. The other places I've worked at were alot worse than the one I'm at now though, I work with mostly older women, some younger ones. So it's not as bad as working with a group of nothing but 20-something guys. I am not sheltered by any means from the world and the things in it, it's even in my house, I am out quite a bit. I really do try and be friends with everyone as much as I can, without compromising anything, but it's very hard to get around with some of the people. I feel like I can witness to them, say hi and goodbye and talk about our lives for a while, and then that's as far as it can go before the conversation turns innapropriate or they are turned off after hearing that I am a christian. I know we cannot be friends with the world, I believe this to be meaning hanging around and fellowshipping often, because eventually it will distract your mind off of godly things sooner or later. I know this, yet it still is rough feeling like such an alien from everybody, I leave work often feeling accomplished yet lonely alot of the time. Before work every day I make sure I have prayed, and meditated on the Bible to make sure I go in with the right mindset, I know it's the wise thing to do yet the loneliness does kick in. Just wanted to vent... How do you guys deal with it?

[KWSS1976]

Just close yourself off in a box..LOL and don't come out... if I am around someone and I don't like what they are doing or how they are talking I just leave. See thats the thing about pentecostals you guys paint the world as doom and gloom just close yourself up in a box and don't use your better judgement..God put me in this world I fell like he wants me to make the most of it.....

[KWSS1976]

Kind of like the whole dress to be diffrent from the world thing...Other women that are not UPC wear skirts and dresses so yall are not to diffrent from the rest of the world....

[n david]

Originally Posted by giftofgrace

I feel like such an alien at work. The other places I've worked at were alot worse than the one I'm at now though, I work with mostly older women, some younger ones. So it's not as bad as working with a group of nothing but 20-something guys. I am not sheltered by any means from the world and the things in it, it's even in my house, I am out quite a bit. I really do try and be friends with everyone as much as I can, without compromising anything, but it's very hard to get around with some of the people. I feel like I can witness to them, say hi and goodbye and talk about our lives for a while, and then that's as far as it can go before the conversation turns innapropriate or they are turned off after hearing that I am a christian. I know we cannot be friends with the world, I believe this to be meaning hanging around and fellowshipping often, because eventually it will distract your mind off of godly things sooner or later. I know this, yet it still is rough feeling like such an alien from everybody, I leave work often feeling accomplished yet lonely alot of the time. Before work every day I make sure I have prayed, and meditated on the Bible to make sure I go in with the right mindset, I know it's the wise thing to do yet the loneliness does kick in. Just wanted to vent... How do you guys deal with it?

Originally Posted by KWSS1976

Just close yourself off in a box..LOL and don't come out... if I am around someone and I don't like what they are doing or how they are talking I just leave. See thats the thing about pentecostals you guys paint the world as doom and gloom just close yourself up in a box and don't use your better judgement..God put me in this world I fell like he wants me to make the most of it.....

Originally Posted by KWSS1976

Kind of like the whole dress to be diffrent from the world thing...Other women that are not UPC wear skirts and dresses so yall are not to diffrent from the rest of the world....

Uhm ... wow

KWSS1976 - really? That's a bit harsh. I think you took a left turn somewhere and went off the road into the woods.

Anyway, I sometimes feel the same way at work ... and I don't close myself in a box or whatever else KWSS1976 said.

[KWSS1976]

How come you think hanging around with friends will distract your off godly things what happenen when you hang around your church friends....

[KWSS1976]

I can go up to anyone at my work and have a nice conversation with them but I am not going to bring the bible into it if they want to know about it they will ask....

[Sister Alvear]

I don't think we have to PUSH what we believe on anyone...if we are a christian they will know it and will respect us for being one. If we have to go into long conversations then we probably are not coming across as a christian...
Even the devil knows a real christian...

[KWSS1976]

Sis Alvear very good words if they are interested in the way I live and see me happy all the time they will ask about it then I will tell them.....

[Aquila]

Honestly, I don't really talk about my faith at work. However, I try to demonstrate high standards of integrity and accountability. I don't do what I call, "scattered seed", witnessing. So I don't "witness" everywhere talking about it all the time etc. Typically I've found this to turn folks off more than interest them. I try to pray and be sensitive to the Spirit so that I can find those who are "searching" or "open". Then I pray for God to have them bring something up that opens the door to share the Gospel. I can honeslty say that the four people I've won in this manner have had more stick-to-itiveness when it comes to attending church. The random scattered seed people typically turn me off, or if they do come to church it's a one or two time deal... or they find something else to do later down the line. So I just try to be myself.

I also don't go out of my way to be "righteous". I know that sounds bad. I might laugh at a joke and say, "Now, you guys know how wrong that is." I don't really instigate that kind of humor regularly (I've had my carnal moments) but I'm no Mother Theresa. Those who find out about my faith typically aren't surprized but they say that I'm "cool" and that more Christians need to "lighten up". Then it's common for one of them to come to me for private advice about things or to get what I think about an issue they're facing. It's nice... they know I don't judge no matter what they're into or up against.

Also, I see little wrong with an occasional drink. I don't get drunk, but I've gone out with co-workers after work and had "a" drink and normally leave after a while (long before they do typically). I had one of the best compliments from a co-worker once. She didn't say that I was "religious" or anything like that, she said to my wife that I was a, "good man." That was one of the best things I've heard said about me.

I don't really separate myself from sinners. I like hanging out with them more than saints on a lot of occasions because they're real and they talk straight up even if using words that might make one cringe. Saints paint the smile and act like everything's fantastic... even if they're sinning or struggling with their faith. Why? I don't know... maybe they think that I'll judge them, gossip, or think less of them. I have a friend who fell into some deep sin, he knows how I am, and this brother opened up about it. I wasn't super spiritual, nor did I threaten him with Hell. I talked with him about the down to earth aspects of what was happening. How would his wife and kids feel, is it who he wants to be, what he should do to get back on track, etc. And he knew his issue was private with me. Thankfully, he fixed the situation before it got blown wide open and a lot of people were hurt. He then asked me, "Should I tell anyone about what happened?" I said, "No. You've talked to the Lord, repented, and fixed it. Talking about it will only leave a lot of people hurt and confused. Move on now. Lesson learned. You're a good man and good men do dumb things too. Now live for today with tomorrow in view." And that was it.

Don't know... I used to isolate myself.... but now I'll go out of my way not to. Sometimes I find myself in mature conversations and places I wouldn't always go... but hey... Jesus didn't hang out at the Temple with the religious folk all the time... he rolled with prostitutes, sinners, and tax collectors. Religion isolates. Jesus came that we might have life. And sometimes, well, that life is very real and it doesn't always fit the "mold".

Just my thoughts.

God bless.

[giftofgrace]

Er, sounds like some people missed the point of my post a little and have pegged me as having a Pharisee-type spirit. Maybe I should have explained more :P