Pregnancy

KWSS1976 · #1 05-14-2009, 11:49 AM

Ok say two people are dating and the girl gets pregnant no marrage plans but all of the sudden they get married after they find out she is pregnant I do not think this is right in my opinion but what is yours...I know this has happened in our church a couple of times...

deltaguitar · #2 05-14-2009, 11:56 AM

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Originally Posted by KWSS1976

Ok say two people are dating and the girl gets pregnant no marrage plans but all of the sudden they get married after they find out she is pregnant I do not think this is right in my opinion but what is yours...I know this has happened in our church a couple of times...

I don't think there is a perfect answer.

RandyWayne · #3 05-14-2009, 12:01 PM

I'm not quite sure what the question is, but a pregnancy between two non-married individuals is not the same as a marriage with the assumption that "well, they are expecting so we might as well make things legal in the eyes of the state since it is now official (marriage) in the eyes of God.". I have seen this viewpoint myself and it always leads to disaster.
IF that is what your asking/getting at.

rgcraig · #4 05-14-2009, 12:05 PM

If they are not in love with each other, but only dating and this happens, I think it's a travesty that they feel like they have to marry.

I seen it work a few times, but for the most part it always fails.

KWSS1976 · #5 05-14-2009, 12:06 PM

Yes the couple are just marrying cause of the pregnancy they had no plans to get married before..So they have not had really anytime to get to know one another they and are marrying just cause and that can be harmful later down the line for the child thats how I look at it...

rgcraig · #6 05-14-2009, 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by KWSS1976

Yes the couple are just marrying cause of the pregnancy they had no plans to get married before..So they have not had really anytime to get to know one another they and are marrying just cause and that can be harmful later down the line for the child thats how I look at it...

I would not have suggested my children marry had this happened to them. I would expect the father to help provide for the child, but not to marry the mother. He could be a part of the child's life and if down the road they felt they loved each other and wanted to make a go of it, that would be fine.

But, marrying just because she is pregnant does not make it less wrong.

BadgerBoysMom · #7 05-14-2009, 12:26 PM

My parents married due to pregnancy. My mother was 15 and dad 19... But that was many many years ago! My older brother was born from that so if they had not I guess I would not be here but I can say it did not work for my parents. They ultimately divorced (badly) years later. They "tried to make work" for nearly 20 yrs and looking back I believe it would have been better if they had not tried so long. I personally still have MANY emotional scars I am working through at age ... almost 40!

BadgerBoysMom · #8 05-14-2009, 12:28 PM

Sorry - didn't get my thought out completely before hitting "post".

Neither of them were in church (of any sort) but at that time it was considered the thing to do.

My perspective is two wrongs don't make a right. However if the couple were already intending to get married I guess it's ok... they are just starting with a ready made family... It does make it more challenging but not impossible. WITH THE LORDS HELP...

MissBrattified · #9 05-14-2009, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by KWSS1976

Ok say two people are dating and the girl gets pregnant no marrage plans but all of the sudden they get married after they find out she is pregnant I do not think this is right in my opinion but what is yours...I know this has happened in our church a couple of times...

It's biblically correct. Does that matter?

Whatever happened to a man being honorable and taking responsibility for his actions? He should at least offer marriage, and if she accepts, then he should love her for the rest of her days.

If they're too young, however, I think the parents have to take charge and help out. The young man still needs to remain in her life, because they have a child together. Marriage makes sense to me, but it may not be absolutely necessary.

It's certainly not WRONG for a couple to get married because of a pregnancy. How could that be wrong?

KWSS1976 · #10 05-14-2009, 12:33 PM

So you do not think one would do it because of being looked down upon in the church....for being pregnant and not being married..