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I still think something is wrong with the fact that the pastor did not give this person anything more than a vague reference to slips of paper and doing it right. Why is HE not involved in this? Why is HE not taking the lead and SHOWING or TEACHING this person what they should be doing in such a case? I personally have a problem with that. He is the pastor of the church for crying out loud, he should be taking the lead on this and talking with the family. That to me is a lack of care or concern and a lack of leadership.
Of course this is just all MY opinion.