1. Perception is reality. If we, even slightly, appear friendly or neutral towards certain sins the reality is, then, that we are indeed approving of that sin--in a general sense. I will not take the time to nuance this statement completely (because there are so many variables) but many times this can be done by simply overlooking things, for too long perhaps, when they should be reconciled. Another way is to actually ridicule or laugh at the efforts of others who are doing right.
2. Examples. Regardless of what age or maturity level of an individual most followers, students, children, disciples or etc. will imitate what is being taught by example--the silent voice. Often times, the actual voice of a leader is not even heard, on occassion, whereas the import of their actions are well recieved.
3. Peresecution and berating. The scope of the author relates primarily to Pentecostal believers, of which a great many are concerned with Holiness and outward separation. As a consequence church leaders can place inordinate or unnecessary pressure upon believers to conform or adapt to traditions or preferences. Such actions can contribute to the loss of friendship, or acceptance, and even lead to abuse.
3a. For example, vow cards, curfews, certain residential restrictions, certain required clothing and etc. CAN be inordinately applied to a believers life by church leadership. If we cannot find scriptural support for an issue then it is best to teach by principle and not make claims that violate the biblical text. It is a travesty against Christ and His Word to use an implication or conclusion based upon an implication to place a believer outside salvation.
Often times church leadership can or fail to place levels of priority and acceptance upon new believers. This is not always unacceptable. However, no matter how young or immature, the new believer has “obtained like precious faith with us.” Standing before God, such a believer is on equal footing with all others, including leadership. This should go without saying, however, this does not mean they are to be given positions of leadership while they are young or immature believers (
1 Tim. 3:6, 10). Quite simply it means that they are to be treated fairly. They are to be focused upon and developed in the Body of Christ. Often times a young believer will not "appear" as "holy" (pun intended) as other, more mature, believers. They should not, by default or without reason, be overlooked because they cannot yet contribute much to the work of God’s kingdom neither should they be viewed as "less saved" than others. Each of us are saved by grace through faith--regardless of gender, ethnicity, or culture (c.f.
Galatians 3:27-28).
Notes:
1. IVP Bible Background Commentary: New Testament by Craig S. Keener Copyright © 1993 by Craig S. Keener. Published by InterVarsity Press. All rights reserved.
2. ibid.
3. Expositor's Bible Commentary, NT. Gaebellein, Frank E. General Editor. Copyright (c) 1976-1992. Zondervan Publishing house