Im glad that you are trully seeking. Tongues is not just a gift of Apostles. Salvation is based on the Death, Burial and Resurrection of Jesus.
Death by dying to sins- this is called repentence. (
Acts 2:38)
Burial: Being baptized in the name of Jesus (
Acts 2:38,
Acts 4:12, 1 Peter 3:21
Resurection: as a new creature by the infilling of the holy ghost (
Acts 2:38,
Acts 10:44-46,
Acts 8:14-16)
Looking at those verses you can easily judge that the infilling of the Holy Ghost comes with that evidence of speaking in tongues. You can be baptized and have repented of your sins but still not have the infilling of the Holy Ghost as we see in ACTS chapter 8. They had received God but still had to have the laying of hands to receive the Holy Ghost.
So to answer the question simply, if you are baptized and have repented, you are on your way to step 3. Its not a bad thing, i was baptized years before i received the infilling of the Spirit.